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A DECORATED HOUSE / A CURATED HOME

I've been thinking lately about what it is that makes a house and a home, and the all-important difference between a house that feels "decorated" and a home that feels curated. 

when brandon and i were first married we had absolutely zero furniture between the two of us. We'd found our first apartment together, a two-bedroom in Lake Oswego, Oregon (two bedrooms!!), and the emptiness in there was comical. There's only so long you can sit on pillows and sleep on an air mattress, so we did what you do and found ourselves a furniture outlet and bought ourselves a living room set. Guys, it looked awful. Two years later we were moving to Brooklyn + I happily sold that sofa/love seat combo and those stupid matching lamps. When we moved to Idaho in 2006, I promised myself I'd do it differently. This meant our three-bedroom home was empty for the better part of a year while I slowly collected pieces I loved to fill it with from thrift stores and occasional Ikea trips (three bedrooms!!!), and in the end what I was left with was a slightly mis-matched, but very truly me, little home

My theory is that if you love it, it'll look great, no matter what it is, and I've never had that fail me yet. My other theory is that too many items from a "big box" store, no matter how perfect they look, are going to leave you with a home that feels flat. You need a few items that are special, items that have a story. Whether it was that you dug it out of a thrift store bin, or made it yourself, or knew that your purchase dollars had gone on to support some really great cause you cared deeply about, I think the difference between a house that is decorated and a home that has been a soulfully, carefully curated, is the spirit that lives inside our belongings. Maybe that sounds all mystical mumbo-jumbo to you, but I really feel the reason I love my home so much  + take so much pride in the work I've done to put it together is all of the sweet memories behind the pieces we've brought in. 

I've recently been making an effort to purchase only hand-made, fair trade, ethically sourced pieces for my home and wardrobe. I'm not perfect by any means (Forever 21 relapses happen!) but I thought I'd share a few of what's caught my eye for the home these days, in case you were similarly on the hunt. ;)

This post was sponsored by Accompany, a globally curated, ethically edited home + clothing online shop that I'm really, really excited about. All opinions are my own, dudes. Thanks as always for your support.

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16 comments:

  1. I agree completely! I also find that I prefer to keep the pretty things in my home practical. I don't do much 'decorating" because decorations feel pointless to me. I would choose lovely pillows, blankets, kitchenware, lighting, etc., over pretty prints and empty vases, anyday!

    Stacie
    www.yellowspool.com

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  2. So agree. We are lucky to have a lot of family pieces (my parents downsized from a big old Victorian to a houseboat exactly at the time we were married--and they have great taste!) and I've never lived near an Ikea so can't even be tempted by that :) Most of our stuff, aside from hand-me-downs, is from thrift/antique shops and I've done a lot of DIYs too. You're right, it does give a home soul and character when each piece is carefully picked and rooms are "curated" as you say, as opposed to "styled." I think you're doing a lovely job in your home!

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  3. natalie, i love this idea so much - the "soulfully curated" - this totally resonates with me! i recently just got married and my husband (still feels weird to say that - ha!) and i are bringing our own little lives together to create a home from a dime-a-dozen apartment and finding ways to incorporate what we truly truly love into our space makes it feel like a home instead of a showroom or - heaven forbid - a craptastic student housing aparment. i love the tours around your home, so keep showing us all the rad things you are doing as you're curating!

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  4. I agree so much with the idea of curated! -Hanna Lei

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  5. I recently moved all of my belongings out of storage into my boyfriends and it looks like a bomb went off. Mismatched styles and furniture. I really love the idea of ethically friendly and I've been keeping that in mind when buying things. These are lovely picks!

    xo
    Rachel

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  6. spot on! a decorated house versus a curated one is the destinction that makes it a HOME. patient and thoughtful selection doesn't come easy, but the results is so much more authentic. i love what you're doing with your space and the items you've featured from accompany are fantastic. happy weekend!

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  7. hey! just wanted to say i'm really glad you're trying to shop more ethically! all the sheinside/forever21/h&m stuff is something a lot of us are trying to stay away from (for the good of other people and the environment), so it's nice to have bloggers like you present/support better stuff. :)

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  8. It is hard to make a house a home!

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  9. I really wish I could go back 6 years and tell my newlywed-self to not buy all the ikea furniture and instead wait and find real wood pieces because all of the moving kills cheap stuff. Thankfully, we've learned our lesson and love to scour flea markets for trinkets and vintage furniture.

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  10. thanks for sharing all the tips and thoughts..my man and i did not own any place of our own yet,but i believe future we will get one.and decorating is definitely the hardest task..but i totally love all the decorations that you had did to your new york's home. :)

    xo josephine c.
    www.joselovincolors.com

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  11. Does your husband worry about your eating disorder?

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    1. that is quite rude. does your family worry about your rude disorder?

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  12. I've been super curious about Peter Pan and barnaby mcduff for awhile. Any updates?!

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  13. love this! i have a hard time trying to figure out a style and then i make the mistake of going on pinterest and not feeling satisfied with what i have. i need to rid myself of all the crap one of these days and let my house be empty for a while and slowly accumulate items i really, really love. you're a genius.

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  14. Okay this has nothing to do with this post, but I have been reading through some of the comments on your square peg post, and went over to instagram and saw some of the comments people were leaving (I normally don't do insta) I don't know why I was reading them, (I'm bored, My child is napping, I am out of diet dr. pepper?) Anyway, can I just say how awesome it is that you are so respectful even when people can be so rude. A lot of people speculating about what you do or don't believe about what covenants you do or don't keep and one thing is for sure, it's none of their business. As, it's none of mine. I think it's great you can stay in the church and find beauty in it even through tough times. I don't understand all the teachings by a long shot. I have a lot of questions for God when I get to heaven. Like why there even was a cankle box for us to take from ;) Hope you're having a happy Sunday and no one at your ward is gossiping about your blog or your undies or anything like that lol.

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  15. So fun! I'm also in hyper-nesting mode and its funny to balance the drive to curate with the patience to find the perfect pieces. There are some gems!

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