tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post1093153861669148273..comments2024-03-25T02:48:32.119-04:00Comments on HEY NATALIE JEAN: A FIST BUMP TO MY FELLOW FERTILE-CHALLENGED FEMALESNataliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13698804808966036834noreply@blogger.comBlogger91125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-26015018594451557122015-03-28T21:31:33.060-04:002015-03-28T21:31:33.060-04:00I found your blog tonight and have been reading it...I found your blog tonight and have been reading it for hours now. These post about infertility are sweet and helpful. My fertility status is currently unknown because my husband and I aren't trying. My best friend has been trying for a year and it's so hard for her. Her younger sister is now pregnant and I plan to start trying this summer. I told her this week so that she could let me know how she would want me to proceed if it happens for us before it happens for her. Her response was exactly what you said to her sister (it's what she said to her sister too). Everyone is different but these posts help me guess a little better about what she's going through. Thank you for sharing.Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06993965657633659959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-24648935060178630112015-01-07T15:55:42.306-05:002015-01-07T15:55:42.306-05:00Thank you for sharing so honestly about what you&#...Thank you for sharing so honestly about what you're going through! Sharing that with the world can be scary, but I appreciate hearing a real person's thoughts and struggles. It makes the world not seem so big and cold. <br /><br />I'm pregnant right now and due to deliver in about 6 weeks, but my sister has struggled with infertility for years. I felt horrible telling her that I was pregnant, and I still do sometimes. Even just waiting the few months between starting to try and actually getting pregnant were hard enough, which is 1/1000th of what you've gone through. <br /><br />Good luck with everything...EngineeredPerfectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10130932107154187433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-58938558640939767992014-12-05T16:50:42.224-05:002014-12-05T16:50:42.224-05:00You are amazing. Also, how amazing is that Huck ch...You are amazing. Also, how amazing is that Huck child you made?!kelsey williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16556401293643252066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-82725720252714689842014-11-28T21:46:45.729-05:002014-11-28T21:46:45.729-05:00I know it's really obnoxious to offer advice.....I know it's really obnoxious to offer advice....But, here goes anyway.....we experienced infertility before our first was born. We tried Clomid before finding out (not through the doctor) that it was actually counter indicated for my condition. I got pregnant about one month after reading the book Taking Charge Of Your Fertility (you can find it on Amazon). I am not saying it will be that simple for you, and I am definitely not trying to minimize your struggle. I am also not one of these, "Crunchy," types who doesn't value doctors. BUT.....I did find that really understanding my body was key. Again, I'm not saying you're not....this comment is turning into a train wreck-forgive me.....just that when I ultimately got pregnant it was because of what I had learned and found out. Anyway, give the book a try. The author's last name is Weschler, and if you hate it, you're only out like 16.00. Sending many good thoughts your way! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-81724976159663125842014-11-24T12:58:57.703-05:002014-11-24T12:58:57.703-05:00I feel like half the comments on here begin with &...I feel like half the comments on here begin with "I never comment on blogs, but..." Well here's one more to add to the list. First, in the spirit of Thanksgiving, thank you for your post. I know so many woman struggling with infertility and it's never an easy topic to approach, let alone with kindness and humor, so thank you. Second, (here's the part where you may tune me out because I'm sure you get a lot of "helpful" suggestions and I recognize I know very little about your individual situation). I struggled to get pregnant with my first because of a luteal phase defect. My luteal phase was always less than 10-days, which was considered borderline. On a friends recommendation I started seeing an acupuncturist and got pregnant within 3-months. I know, I know, everyone has a random success story they want to share or thinks they can suggest the one-size-fits-all solution. But the pregnancy bonus aside, acupuncture was great. It was like having a therapist, general practitioner, and OB/GYN all rolled up into one. We didn't just talk about ovaries, we talked about my diet, my stress level, that weird pinch in my shoulder, everything. The one bummer was she told me to stop drinking caffeine, which was like asking me to spend the day with one hand tied behind my back, but she okay-ed green tea and I found if I drank enough, I felt somewhat normal :) <br /><br />Happy Holidays to your lovely family. jleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06611572003428947777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-41710810411445197322014-11-23T15:56:31.588-05:002014-11-23T15:56:31.588-05:00<3 that's all... just <3<3 that's all... just <3kaelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01856957021988103767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-12261758547835802862014-11-22T21:27:35.645-05:002014-11-22T21:27:35.645-05:00I love your blog. You write with such sincerity ab...I love your blog. You write with such sincerity about things that are so hard, and yet this blog is still a happy and uplifting place to come (I cried lots of happy tears when I read your oh-so-beautiful post about Huck's birth story). Keep it up Natalie!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-69667320096618730652014-11-21T13:24:19.032-05:002014-11-21T13:24:19.032-05:00Also, stares? her her? Themself? Words/typing/homo...Also, stares? her her? Themself? Words/typing/homonyms were real hard for me in this comment. katildahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17794183122186770465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-69646350186147926702014-11-21T13:22:49.029-05:002014-11-21T13:22:49.029-05:00I much appreciate the rawness of this post. And th...I much appreciate the rawness of this post. And this is truth: "once you are crushed by something you're just . . . still crushed." <-- thank you for that, because, yes. It reminds me of that part in Penelope when she asks James McAvoy to just please marry her and he says he can't (but only because of the damn curse, not because he doesn't love her her) and then she asks him to get out and she sits on the stares and the next line says, "I felt the rush of a thousand heartbreaks." I think about that line all.the.time. when the same old hurts repeat themself. It's like -- every broken relationship isn't just *that* relationship, it's all the other ones too. Like a pile. A rush of a thousand all at once. It's like you said: you're just *still crushed.* Anyway you made me think of that. You + Penelope.katildahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17794183122186770465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-7276973219628215812014-11-19T17:03:34.439-05:002014-11-19T17:03:34.439-05:00Wow. This really bowled me over. I'm in the mi...Wow. This really bowled me over. I'm in the middle of infertility right now. Trying to conceive for going on 3 years, wondering if it will ever happen for me. All around me, friends are getting pregnant and have babies and babies and babies. And I have a diagnosis: Diminished Ovarian Reserve. Which is apparently not good - far fewer eggs than a person my age should have. So I feel crushed. I have never heard anyone describe it better. "That's infertility, I think, that feeling of being just a little bit crushed, always." Yes, always. I ALWAYS feel it, even just a little bit. Thanks so much for putting that out there and I wish you the absolute very best. kpotter19https://www.blogger.com/profile/17369178227807261165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-79593159996165586132014-11-18T09:34:33.466-05:002014-11-18T09:34:33.466-05:00What a wonderfully honest post Natalie. I had a mi...What a wonderfully honest post Natalie. I had a miscarriage a couple of years ago, at 9 weeks, and it shattered me. It was my first pregnancy and I was so desperately afraid that there was something wrong with my body, that I'd be unable to carry out a pregnancy, and I would be left with a huge hole in my soul forever. I did conceive - he is now 1 year old - and I love him with every ounce of my fiber, but I haven't forgotten that first little spark of life. I believe I just went through another miscarriage - a chemical pregnancy - this past cycle. My body felt different, my appetite was enormous, the hormones were raging...and then I had the most terrible cramps equal to my first miscarriage. And the ensuing, ehem... process was ugly and painful. I haven't said a word about it, even to my husband, because somehow I have the mindset we, as women, must power through it. Even during my first miscarriage, I received sympathetic but inconsiderate comments such as "more that 20% of women suffer at least one miscarriage." Or, "it was just nature's way of flushing out an unhealthy circumstance." I know these comments came from a good place, but they actually came across as "hey, it's no biggie." But IT IS. There was a tiny part of me that was struggling to come alive, and if even for a millisecond, my body acknowledged it. When that spark, that energy, disappears, you, me, any woman, has the right to mourn. Thank you for reminding us of this (and sorry for the long rant. you just really struck a chord with me!) Kudos to you.Kristenhttp://www.modagecottage.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-30235707109126496492014-11-18T03:02:20.636-05:002014-11-18T03:02:20.636-05:00Thank you for being so raw and authentic and trust...Thank you for being so raw and authentic and trusting your readers. You share stuff like this and hope to not get trampled on. You are a talented writer so never stop. It may sound odd but I feel more connected to humanity, more inspired, more uplifted when I read what you write...especially a post like this. We're all in the middle of something, right? Hang in there sister. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. That little one is waiting for you.Angelanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-15930878339875174902014-11-16T22:05:46.698-05:002014-11-16T22:05:46.698-05:00Agree that the above comment is mean and overly ha...Agree that the above comment is mean and overly harsh. I think you are such a wonderful person, and absolutely beautiful inside and out... However, I DO think you would have better success keeping a pregnancy if you allowed yourself to gain an extra 5-10 pounds. Both on a physical and emotional level, it would send the message that "yes, my body has the stores and capacity to care for myself AND a baby". <br />Food for thought.... with pure and compassionate intentions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-80669388469631304032014-11-16T17:09:40.675-05:002014-11-16T17:09:40.675-05:00I have no idea why your experience and your feelin...I have no idea why your experience and your feelings have ANY relationship to how Natalie should feel. Or anyone else for that matter. Having carried to term after miscarriage hardly gives you "cred" to weigh in on someone else's reproductive health. You being satisfied and happy with one child in no way means that's how everyone else should feel. Offering medical advice? Please. You are out of line. <br /><br />Nat, I am a regular reader, don't think I've commented before. My heart goes out to you and anyone else suffering from infertility, wishing you all a chunky baby. Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04353506289606442753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-54841484342712760302014-11-15T17:03:33.282-05:002014-11-15T17:03:33.282-05:00No, it's called truth and not cloud cuckoo lan...No, it's called truth and not cloud cuckoo land.The Butchhttp://thebutchandthebrat.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-61841061877179370282014-11-15T16:29:37.839-05:002014-11-15T16:29:37.839-05:00hmmmm.. is that supposed to be tough love above?
hmmmm.. is that supposed to be tough love above?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-40384085402689842802014-11-15T08:19:44.035-05:002014-11-15T08:19:44.035-05:00I know you won't publish this comment, but som...I know you won't publish this comment, but someone has to speak up who has a clue.<br /><br />You need to put on some weight and consider therapy to calm the hell down. It is two major strikes against you to try to get pregnant when you are so damned keyed up and underweight. It only exacerbates any underlying medical conditions. Stop drinking that poison known as diet drinks and EAT. My girlfriend is a sexual and reproductive healthcare provider and I hear about what happens when underweight chicks who are so stressed out try to get pregnant and can't figure out why they can't or can't hang on to the pregnancy. Having been pregnant and carried to term myself after miscarriages, I have the cred as well. I couldn't get pregnant for three years I was so keyed up.<br /><br />All these miscarriages are absolutely affecting your health. I've been reading your blog for years, why I don't know except that train wrecks are kind of fascinating, and seeing you age so damned quickly in the photos speaks volumes. What is so damned important about getting pregnant again? Appreciate your one treasure, as I do mine, and get over the fact that to try to be a baby factory is not an option. Be present fully for the one that you do have.The Butchhttp://thebutchandthebrat.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-25475220222877206282014-11-15T00:01:41.848-05:002014-11-15T00:01:41.848-05:00I have some info that I would be happy to share wi...I have some info that I would be happy to share with you; perhaps info that you may butay not know. If you are interested email me @ tanyakeeping@hotmail.com and I will forward it to you. Wishing you all the best! And so excited for you to have another baby; you make adorable babies!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-67248089768213823242014-11-14T22:58:35.936-05:002014-11-14T22:58:35.936-05:00you're wonderful. this is great. thank you.you're wonderful. this is great. thank you. Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04058515063570980693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-41689446837655911252014-11-14T10:43:54.209-05:002014-11-14T10:43:54.209-05:00Thank you. Thank you. Grumbly Mermaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13430668028993463564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-5330312357960765532014-11-13T20:10:26.921-05:002014-11-13T20:10:26.921-05:00Thank you for writing this and helping me feel les...Thank you for writing this and helping me feel less alone. In the year and a half we've been trying I've had one chemical pregnancy and one miscarriage at 7.5 weeks. The miscarriage was the worst thing I've been through. This fertility thing is really tough isn't it? But at least we aren't alone.Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14724343289327049879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-20963729922852298472014-11-13T12:50:40.485-05:002014-11-13T12:50:40.485-05:00As someone who went through 5 years of unexplained...As someone who went through 5 years of unexplained infertility before we had our daughter (its truly a miracle she is with us) and now going on 2.5 years of unexplained infertility after her birth, I just want to say I GET IT. I see your hurt and the chaos and the messiness and I get it, and I'm sorry. It sucks what you are going through and I wouldn't wish infertility on my worst enemy. <br /><br />I think all this processing here in front of everyone is very brave and very bold, but more importantly it sheds light on what can be a very isolating situation. Once I started talking about it, REALLY talking about it, it was freeing for both my husband, me and the people who loved me. The eggshells were gone and we were all in it together. <br /><br />I'm wishing you all the best, including another baby. Hugs. Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15633616302598000329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-21193805150451604262014-11-13T12:24:20.317-05:002014-11-13T12:24:20.317-05:00you are so inspiring and encouraging and uplifting...you are so inspiring and encouraging and uplifting. thank you for letting us into your life a little. it changes ours.kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08052949380328765242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-6758381072258761702014-11-13T06:44:25.760-05:002014-11-13T06:44:25.760-05:00Soul sisters! I hope your little one is doing well...Soul sisters! I hope your little one is doing well. Our daughter is 4 months and still in the NICU.Alishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00801646686346180436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-48956460323015196582014-11-12T17:44:46.709-05:002014-11-12T17:44:46.709-05:00You're a strong lady and I hope and pray that ...You're a strong lady and I hope and pray that you get that kid sister that Huck wished for. (I also hope and pray that, when I finally get married, I'll be fertile, since I've been having to wait so long to even start a family, ya know?) Anyway...I really do wish you the very best, and I think you're a gem.the ginabeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08237796696115756778noreply@blogger.com