tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post1908292079617491490..comments2024-03-18T22:57:04.768-04:00Comments on HEY NATALIE JEAN: ON LETTING IT HAPPENNataliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13698804808966036834noreply@blogger.comBlogger108125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-33639649849894387542013-03-15T14:20:02.426-04:002013-03-15T14:20:02.426-04:00I know this post is a year old, but I just discove...I know this post is a year old, but I just discovered your blog today and read this post, and I felt so moved to respond because it rang so true. I have endometriosis, and it took a surgery and the better part of a year to conceive our daughter. To top it off, my water broke at 31 weeks, and I spent 3 weeks in the hospital until she could be (relatively) safely delivered at 34 weeks. These worrisome moments really exposed the differences between my husband and me. I am the worrier, the planner, the what-will-I-do-if-things-go-this-way person, the researcher, the overanalyzer. My husband? Well, his answer for most things is the same as the one you quote here: "It will work out. Don't worry." I usually love him for it, but it's hard when I want him to be in the worry with me, when I feel alone with it. Our daughter will be 8 months on Monday, the endo pain has started to creep back (I am guessing my cycles are about to return), and it all has me prematurely thinking "what if" about trying to do it again with potential baby #2 in a year or so. Anyway, I just wanted to say that I could relate to so much in this post, and you have a beautiful, honest way of writing. The post about moms being the keepers of babyhood made me tear up. Keep up the good work!RLBerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06847830213750965042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-34552663534029476802012-10-28T21:24:30.898-04:002012-10-28T21:24:30.898-04:00You probably won't ever read this comment but ...You probably won't ever read this comment but I just wanted to say thanks for sharing. My husband and I have only been trying for 6 months but each month feels like an eternity. It's so comforting to know others are going through the same thing, especially on a day like today when we unknowingly sat in what seemed to be the fertile Mertile section of church. It's such an odd feeling when the sight of cute little babies that once made you smile now makes you want to cry. Thanks for sharing honestly and from your heart.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02703600358199299985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-19430753289176326892012-04-28T00:23:47.894-04:002012-04-28T00:23:47.894-04:00we are so alike and our husbands could be soul twi...we are so alike and our husbands could be soul twins. seriously. i analyze every minute of every day and he just takes it as it comes.rhonda https://www.blogger.com/profile/16825186760881892669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-75376048642373057262012-04-18T13:27:11.429-04:002012-04-18T13:27:11.429-04:00i'm no expert but i did a lot of reading about...i'm no expert but i did a lot of reading about this. i wanted babies close together and that just isn't going to hapoen but have you tried vitex (chasteberry) and b6? some women swear by it. they are supposed to lower your prolactin levels enough so that progesterone has a fighting chance. <br /><br />anyway, it seems as though you are headed in the right direction as far as regaining fertility goes. you (i'm assuming) have a predictable cycle. next is getting your luteal phaae to lengthen (which may just take time) then you regain full fertility.<br /><br />it'/s not impossible to get pregnant while breastfeeding, it just doesn't make it easier! it also doesn't make it easier when my mom tells me how she had us kuds 17 months apart... and here i am with a 16 month old and no sign that my body is even thinking about getting fertile.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-88012131254549099992012-04-12T12:08:22.393-04:002012-04-12T12:08:22.393-04:00That's the book that helped me, too! Life-chan...That's the book that helped me, too! Life-changer, that one.Julie Barker Pullmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05328893430606208253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-58414231028091919462012-04-12T00:00:17.370-04:002012-04-12T00:00:17.370-04:00Thank you a million times over for this. I am goin...Thank you a million times over for this. I am going through a similar situation...waiting, waiting, waiting for it to "just happen" and it's just NOT happening! I want a little one to care for more than anything and I have those days where I. Just. Don't. Understand. Why isn't it easy for me like it is for so SO SO many others?? So, thank you Natalie. This is a very difficult time.jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08901032478583031593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-53112763684750742992012-04-11T23:15:01.712-04:002012-04-11T23:15:01.712-04:00I just need to say that struggling with infertilit...I just need to say that struggling with infertility/suffering through treatments and the real possibility of no children is not even close to having a rough pregnancy. not even close to being the same thing.cshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004321888307003171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-58550761424790685612012-04-11T20:44:24.220-04:002012-04-11T20:44:24.220-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.the schmoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03860609453298957246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-3997742441294009692012-04-10T14:44:21.490-04:002012-04-10T14:44:21.490-04:00Ditto on that book being RAD -- fabulous fabulous ...Ditto on that book being RAD -- fabulous fabulous book!Melissa@Julias Bookbaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01843783350458823690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-41410544304787027232012-04-09T15:19:14.918-04:002012-04-09T15:19:14.918-04:00Oh boy do I understand. I got by rx months ago no...Oh boy do I understand. I got by rx months ago now I just need to use the assistance, but getting up the energy to emotional go through it is hard. I am trying the homeopathic route this time hoping I don't need all the assistance I did before. (I have to do an IUI)<br /> Good LuckCocohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11759539398552994544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-52428046506868484952012-04-09T11:55:30.562-04:002012-04-09T11:55:30.562-04:00Great post! That can be my mantra too, "I am ...Great post! That can be my mantra too, "I am not infertile, I just need an assist."Jen (Pink) Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13006902732637129671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-11075231044191129902012-04-09T11:54:33.603-04:002012-04-09T11:54:33.603-04:00What an honest and beautifully written post. It wi...What an honest and beautifully written post. It will all work out i am sure.<br /><br />And i need to be reminded sometimes just to let some things be :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00298007276718492716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-61212703118184601442012-04-08T23:12:00.874-04:002012-04-08T23:12:00.874-04:00I so much appreciate the honestly of this post. Th...I so much appreciate the honestly of this post. Thank you so much for your sharing. T&Ps are with you through this journey!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08487216171551951884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-18679315918767587472012-04-07T10:56:19.717-04:002012-04-07T10:56:19.717-04:00I think the personality combo you and your husband...I think the personality combo you and your husband have is perfect. I love the mix of a little neurotic/totally laid back. I married a totally neurotic man and I'm the optimistic/laid back one! He keeps me focused and I keep him grounded.<br /><br />And, on letting it happen, that's all well and good for some people but sometimes we have to work for what we want. My version of working is taking a few drugs and a big bout of positive thinking. I think its beautiful to live a purposeful life. And what could be more representative of a purposeful life than your children's conception?KCMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05475112218353400626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-72479224398027734902012-04-07T02:30:54.268-04:002012-04-07T02:30:54.268-04:00You just totally described my husband and I to a t...You just totally described my husband and I to a tee! So glad we married guys like that! My heart goes out to you... I know what it is like to want to get pregnant so bad and have things not work the way they should. Ugh. Frustrating.Cristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18331650187952975897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-24976334972074775042012-04-06T19:58:51.935-04:002012-04-06T19:58:51.935-04:00Thank you so much for being so open and honest abo...Thank you so much for being so open and honest about your struggle. It is one of the things that got me through my own long journey. I finally made it and our nugget will be here in September. I can't wait.<br /><br />Lots of thoughts and prayers headed your way.Abby Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03604186194584858965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-14769948498799862002012-04-06T15:39:41.854-04:002012-04-06T15:39:41.854-04:00Have you read Viktor Frankl's Man's Search...Have you read Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning? I have also been through a pregnancy loss (1st pregnancy) and infertile since then and what has helped me the most is the great opportunity I have been given for personal and spiritual growth. This is not to say that one can't grow in the same ways without these experiences, but these experiences, if we allow them to be, can truly be catalysts for tremendous personal growth. Some circumstances we have no control over, but we always have control over our response to them. <br /><br />From Man's Search for Meaning:<br /><br /> We who lived in the concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. — P.65-66<br /><br />Dostoevski said once, “There is only one thing that I dread: not to be worthy of my sufferings.” These words frequently came to my mind after I became acquainted with those martyrs whose behavior in camp, whose suffering and death, bore witness to the fact the last inner freedom can’t be lost. It can be said that they were worthy of their sufferings; the way they bore their suffering was a genuine inner achievement. It is this spiritual freedom — which cannot be taken away — that makes life meaningul and purposeful. — P.66-67<br /><br />I too, fear only that I should ever be unworthy of my sufferings. Because only then do they become futile or meaningless or bad luck or whatever other way you might be able to look at them. Happiness, satisfaction or self worth dependent on circumstances is fleeting. The same irregardless of circumstance is liberating. Best wishes to you!<br /><br />"Prayer is not asking for what you think you want, but asking to be changed in ways you can't imagine."pinkpeonies29https://www.blogger.com/profile/08493545574401403512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-71240258903016512682012-04-06T15:01:36.338-04:002012-04-06T15:01:36.338-04:00I don't know you but I feel like I do in that ...I don't know you but I feel like I do in that weird way that the internet has and I wish I could give you a hug. Because it will be OK. And maybe because of the struggles to get him here (and maybe you would have been like this without them) but you appear to be SUCH a fabulous mother. You treasure your little boy. You savor him and relish your time with him and don't waste your time wishing that he would do/be/look differently.<br /><br />Of course hearing, or even knowing that 'this is Heavenly Father's plan for you' or 'it will be ok' doesn't help much in the here and now, especially for those of us who are planners and 'on MY schedule please!' girls. So know that there are many out here praying for you and wishing you the best.jerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05334193146809678214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-75599632893726434962012-04-06T14:33:26.378-04:002012-04-06T14:33:26.378-04:00i feel terribly nosey saying anything about your f...i feel terribly nosey saying anything about your family-planning at all (though i think that's what the internet is for, so i'm going for it). have you considered adoption? i'm no baby expert, but to my silly inexpert brain, nothing seems sweeter than providing a happy home full of love to a baby who may otherwise not have one. plus, how cool would it be to be adopted by THE natalie and brandon holbrook of blogspot fame? SO COOL. <br /><br />thanks for letting us into your life. your blog is my most favorite part of the internet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-6291929018960145522012-04-06T12:36:00.664-04:002012-04-06T12:36:00.664-04:00You are in my heart, beautiful lady! And in my pra...You are in my heart, beautiful lady! And in my prayers. Don't forget that you are already blessed with a wonderful husband and an amazing baby, right? :)Mairihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13001663648677005088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-91151859244213249802012-04-06T11:42:01.210-04:002012-04-06T11:42:01.210-04:00Whoever said Vitamins B6 & B12 is right on the...Whoever said Vitamins B6 & B12 is right on the money. I had a short luteal phase also thanks to nursing and took those vitamins to lengthen it. Guess what--I got pregnant with twins! You could always try the vitamins for a couple months if you're iffy on using the hormones again. Good luck to you!<br />www.themcfamilyblog.comMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03982643863204837704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-16969247691414474552012-04-06T10:13:16.033-04:002012-04-06T10:13:16.033-04:00When we were trying for our first baby, I was trac...When we were trying for our first baby, I was tracking my cycles and did some research and figured out I had luteal phase deficiency as well, so I was put on progesterone. It definitely helped, well, that along with an HSG we think - but we got pregnant after 6 months, so I have high hopes that you'll have no problems conceiving again! Do your research for sure, but luteal phase deficiency is definitely something that can be overcome fairly easily when all is said and done!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13313334272056874174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-61886156544950863642012-04-06T10:04:33.030-04:002012-04-06T10:04:33.030-04:00Thank you for this post Nat. Praying for you today...Thank you for this post Nat. Praying for you today! I am excited for baby number two.aeginnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12092307897299621468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-47787407798009244752012-04-06T09:20:40.503-04:002012-04-06T09:20:40.503-04:00A thousand good lucks to you on your adventure for...A thousand good lucks to you on your adventure for baby #2. It will happen, you know that, we know that!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15969919357616060135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2487616434221255778.post-27904117654365949142012-04-06T09:14:11.183-04:002012-04-06T09:14:11.183-04:00do some research on b6 and b12 vitamins and length...do some research on b6 and b12 vitamins and lengthening luteal phase!!!Liz&Bizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04669382472680932594noreply@blogger.com