8.30.2013

LOUISIANA SNO BALLS AND GOOD FRIENDS IN THE CITY


first of all i am in denial that the summer is ending and so let's not go there. 

second of all is sno balls. 

there's a sno ball cart that's parked on gansevoort in the meatpacking district for the summer, imperial wood-pecker sno balls. it's the "real deal," according to a friend who hails from the south and knows about these things. and even though cold things aren't my jam (give me the carbs i can chew!), i'd been dying to try it out, and latonya and river were able to meet us, and now here comes the third of all.

third of all is i had a lovely realization tonight, about being old and having friends. 

i moved around a lot as a kid and so while i always had good friends, i rarely ever had close friends. a few here and there, but there was always another move looming. it wasn't until we moved back to the city that i started making the kind of friendships that i felt could really become life-long. a lot of this had to do with blogging--blogging has a way of helping you find your tribe in such a neat way--and a lot of it was due to the fact that here in the city, you sort of bond extra hard with the women you live near and go to church with, since none of us have family close. we all sort of become each others' families, which has been really lovely. 

by and large, the ladies i've met in the last few years through blogging and living in the city have been fiercely amazing. but because i didn't start making these kinds of friends until i was, like, 28, i'd never learned the hard way that sometimes it doesn't work out. sometimes you give your trust too easily to the wrong people. sometimes you're the idiot for trying too hard, or being too vulnerable in all the wrong situations. (if there is anything i'm ever likely to be, it is mostly always "too vulnerable in the wrong situations." i'm ace at that.) i suppose i will gladly always be that idiot, it's better than being the alternative. 

it's weird to be this old having these experiences, finally, but i guess that's what's made it all the sweeter that i've been able to find the real deal and when that happens it makes it all worth it. so that was my lovely realization tonight. i have had such good luck making friends here in this city. fun friends and see-you-around friends, sure. but even close friends too. i don't stop and feel grateful for that enough. 

one such lady, of course, is miss latonya. she's a good one.

anyway, sno balls. derp derp. 


brandon was there too but he was feeling strictly-behind-the-camera tonight. and please to appreciate how amazing his skills are! proud wife.

right, and then because we were there and the sun was setting so nicely for us we decided to cap it off with a walk on the highline. aaaand take a million photos because it's practically impossible to walk the highline and not take a million photos. 

p.s. huck is such a ladies man. 




these are a few hideously funny faces going on, so of course i had to post them. that there is what i look like when i am telling you something. really. spectacularyou-will-not-believe. latonya is reacting exactly as one should in such a situation, as you can see. 

completely unrelated now: near the middle of the highline there's an artist who's set up this giant mini public art gallery. he invites passersby to stop and paint a tile, which you can then take with you or leave behind for him to add to the gallery. huck and riv were total naturals, we were very proud. 




anyway anyway. we had a lovely evening, i love having brandon home on staycation (staycation!), and other things by way of wrapping this up.

also i'm going to have to hit the farmers market tomorrow and buy ALL of the fruit and remind myself that it is still august. IT IS STILL AUGUST! 

loves to all of you from all of us. over and out.

p.s. on me
hat: madewell (similar HERE)
pants c/o LOFT
shoes: rachel comey

on huck:
tee: american apparel
pants: zara kids

47 comments :

  1. SO fun! We just got back from visiting nyc and I literally just posted our pics of our visit to the highline. I first read about it here on your blog and really wanted to visit it this last time in nyc. Did not disappoint. Loved it!

    PS your over the top, you-would-not-believe-what-I'm-about-to-say face is priceless haha. Love it!
    PPS Mr. Holbrook behind the lens? Winning.

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  2. you got your tattoo!?! love it! :)

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    1. it's a tattly temporary tattoo! still playing around with the idea.... maybe for my birthday! ;)

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    2. As LDS are we allowed to have a tattoo and keep a recommend? I would love some!

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  3. The mini gallery is so cute. I found that my late 20s was when I really made good friends. Firmed up old friendships and made new ones. Making friends and keeping friends is hard work, but so worth it. Am so glad you've made a some good ones in NYC x

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  4. I was already loving the conversation that required hands on hips in the photo of River and Huck hugging, you are just spoiling me with the other two ;) Loved this post and the photos!

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  5. I'm pretty sure young Henry and my son (almost ten months) could be brothers, if not twins. :) Such a cute boy! I need to get to NYC someday, you always make it look so amazing!

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  6. Oh my gosh. Henry and River running to each other? CUTEST THING EVER!!! Be still my aching ovaries.

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  7. I grew up in a similar situation, a lot of moving, even to other continents and now, at 28 i can finally say that I have close friends. I took a while, but they are keepers! Glad to hear you found some good one too :)
    Btw, I love the photos, mr. Holbrook is a great photographer!

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  8. LOVE her oxford's! I had a pair just like them in high school. I was the only one. I rocked them so hard. I want some new ones now.

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  9. I adore your friends shoes!!!

    Looks like wee Huck has found himself a girlfriend....

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  10. Love these pics and your looks.
    http://freedmode.blogspot.fr/

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  11. amazing photos! love how you photograph the city!
    glad to hear you have nice friends, so important :)

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  12. That son ball looks so good! -Hanna Lei

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  13. gorgeous photos! looks like an amazing day.

    www.modernsuburbanites.blogspot.com

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  14. Oh my gosh, I am right there with you! I hit thirty before I finally had the realization that, although I've lived my whole life longing for my own Diana Barry, it's a little late for me to have a lifelong, kindred spirit kind of a friend! And I am definitely that person who excels at giving too much, trying too hard, and being too vulnerable at the worst possible times, embarrassingly so! It was hard coming to terms with that and being able to tell myself, 'that's just who you are.' I'm still trying to recover from the last time and it has been almost 2 years! =/ Being a military wife has made that even harder because you feel this pressure to form relationships quickly, while you can (definitely not in my comfort zone), so I end up trying even harder and crashing back down to earth more quickly. Vicious cycle, man. Vicious cycle.

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  15. In the South we've got at least another full month of hot weather before it cools down enough to be considered autumn. In Arkansas, short sleeves are often still in order well into October and air conditioning is a necessity sometimes through November. I think it's just wretched. I'm craving those crunchy, colorful leaves underfoot. Send me some of your early autumn breezes, and I'll send you some summer steam.

    Jo Farmer

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  16. Such great pictures! Way to go hubby. It's never too late to make lasting friendships. So glad you can appreciate those around you! Looks like such a great time! :)

    http://sometimesgracefully.com

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  17. Every time I read your blog (which is everyday) 3 things happen: I start to hate NJ, I want to move to NYC, and have a kid...every time!!

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  18. Natalie. No one's asked you about the hat. That hat is my dreams. The little feather! Where might one find such a hat?!

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    1. Seriously. That hat. I absolutely die for it.

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    2. madewell last year! they have a similar one this season . . . :)

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  19. those sno balls looks delicious and they look like the real deal to me. One of my favorite flavors is Wedding cake.

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  20. Okay so wait. Is a sno ball not just a sno-cone? Right? Also, that last picture! Of Huck painting! His face! Adorable :)

    xo

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  21. Funny how you never have pictures of anyone else on your blog, but as soon as you get a black girl to hang out with you: "OMGPhotoshoot!! So mormon, yet so enlightened!!"

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    1. Really? That's your comment? Go read a different blog, you ass.

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    2. Rude. She has had plenty of others pictured on her blog. Parties, get-togethers.
      Funny how the blind see what they choose to see. (Hmm. WHO is the bigot?)

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  22. I'm the exact opposite when it comes to friends. I had a TON growing up in my neighborhood, church, school, girl scouts, dance, etc. But now that I'm an adult and have moved away from everyone I once spent every day with, I have nobody. I'm 29, lived in the same house with my hubs and 2 kids for 6 years and haven't found a single friend. It's hard. Happy you have close friends now, and still holding out for mine! :)

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  23. Where are your shoes from?? They are adorbs!!! :)

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  24. you were dead on about the whole friends thing. couldn't have said it better myself.

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  25. friends are hard. i get it. twenty five and still learning.

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  26. Hi! I'm new here but I had to say hi. I unexpectedly stumbled on your blog from Freshly Picked and have fallen head over heels for your blog. It. Your life...is lovely! Completely charming. I am excited to follow you and read more from you. P.S. my daughter's name is Natalie, but we call her Nat. :)

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  27. Oh my the photos your boy and his gurl-friend is absolutely adorable and so sweet!! They look like really good friends. :))

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  28. "blogging has a way of helping you find your tribe in such a neat way" <--- YES. I have my best girlfriends from before we had kids, and now we all have kids the same age; I have my twin mom friends that I couldn't have lived without when I had infant twins; and I have my blogging friends who are the only ones I can talk to about traffic and memes and SEO and the internet. I love them all for different reasons, but my blogging friends are the ones who really get me, I think.

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  29. No one has ever made me want to visit New York more than you, Nat. And friends! Let's all be kindred spirits!

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  30. While in NYC in June I went to the same sno ball stand. Such good memories of those treats from my trips to N. Orleans.

    Love you blog!

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  31. I totally know what you mean! I didn't move around a ton but I always got along better with guys {I know, one of THOSE girls}...but when you get married and especially when you're Mormon for some reason it's weird to have guy friends or be friends with someone's husband so I've been forced to become a girls girl and I'm loving it! I've never had more close girl-friends in my life and I'm 26. I feel like I've made girl-friends for life and moving away from my family a few months ago to CA has made me feel so lucky to have met some ladies who are like family already out here. Here's to making good friends late in life! Such a good feeling. Ramble done!

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  32. the photos of them running and then hugging! beyond sweet. i know the hard lessons you are talking about - i learned the, at age 20 - no matter the age, always a hard lesson. i'm glad you're finding good and loyal friends though. nothing like a good conversation with another woman.

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  33. Love what you said about friendships. I myself have a hard time making real friends out there. I've always been the sort as well, who only has maybe one or two close friends. I'd love to have a nice group of close girlfriends, but time will tell. I hope it'll happen though.
    And here's me appreciating your husband's photography skills.... :) He did awesome. Loved the candid shot of you telling your friend that exciting news.

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  34. that one of huck from behind against the chain-link fence, looking out onto the river - i die. it's perfect.

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  35. where are your clogs from? I think they're great!

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  36. i can feel you on the friend front. fist pumps happened as i read this post. yes woman! i know what you mean. i am a vulnerable idiot and felt it deeply this year. in fact blogged a snip about it too. and yes bloggers can be a bit of a tribe..another fist pump.
    thanks for such beautiful inspiring writing.

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  37. I am so with you on this Natalie! When you live not only far from family, but in a whole other country to boot, the friend thing is super hard, yet super important. I know when we first started out in Germany, I did the same thing - gave it away too easily because I was so eager to have friends. Which of course resulted in some trouble and one very awkward back-pedaling situation that was fairly disastrous. On the plus side, the whole blogging world is a lifesaver! I have made countless friends from my blog, both in real life and (as of yet) virtually, not to mention been able to make connections and get recommendations at almost every place we travel. It's really wonderful the way it connects you to other like-minded individuals in a way that just happenstance meetings in real life never could. What in the world did we do before the internet??

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  38. Thank you for adding your outfit details! haha...(cuz you know we are all going to ask) You are adorable and your friend is stunning. Looks like such a fun day.

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  39. Such a beautiful day :-) Nat, you have inspired me to love my hometown again, thank you. I've been following your blog for awhile now and all I can say is, YES!

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  40. Ahh. Latonya has such a lovely retro look! Sigh. I could never live in New York, I'm not beautiful enough. Clearly, cute doesn't cut it!

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