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2.17.2015

WHAT TO SAY TO YOUR FRIEND WHO'S INFERTILE

at one of my favorite pad thai spots in chelsea

I've been thinking a lot about the things you do and don't say to your friend who's infertile. Do you have a friend who's infertile? Are you the friend who's infertile? All of us have a friend who's infertile, whether or not we know it, that's just the odds. And it's awful. It's isolating. It's the worst kind of loneliness, when you're the one who's infertile. Even when you have it easy--I feel like I have it pretty easy; I've seen it work before, I have every confidence it will work again once we're able to dedicate ourselves to the treatments--even when you have it easy, it's up there with the worst kinds of pain. It's the worst kind of pain I've ever experienced. Because there's nothing anybody can do, except that one thing that you know you can do, that one thing that will work. Something might work, and you know it, you just don't know what it is yet. 

But people, we try, don't we? That's part of the fun of being flawed human beings. We always try, and we always have the best intentions. We always want to comfort. It's hard to be the friend on the other side of infertility. I've been on that side, too--I know exactly what I don't want to hear when I'm in pain from the loneliness of infertility, and yet, when it comes time to comfort fellow Infertile Myrtles, my instinct is to go there straight away just the same, to those same loving, well-intentioned, yet completely empty words that others said to me that frustrated me so much. 

So I thought we could open up the conversation. What are some of the worst things to hear as an infertile friend? What are some of the best? I'd love to hear it. In the meantime, here are some of mine. 


DON'T SAY:

1. *Wide-eyed, while your many small children circle your legs, while your infertile friend talks about ovulation* "Oh gosh, I don't know anything about this at all." 
Yeah. I know you don't. But ugh. UGH. Don't say this. It always makes me feel like such an alien species. 

2. "Maybe you should try giving up gluten. I had a friend who gave up gluten, and . . ." 
Chances are, we've tried all that. Chances are we've gone on meat, off meat, on gluten, off gluten; we've tried veganism and hedonism and running more and exercising less. We've tried all of the herbs. We're perfectly capable of smiling and saying, "Sure! I'll try that next!" But what we really want to do when we hear this is bang our heads against something blunt. Because this kind of hyperawareness--of what we put in our bodies or do with our bodies--once we start to think of all the things we have yet to try or once we suppose that any decision or regimen we take is rife with baby-making possibilities or lack thereof, it starts to get incredibly ridiculous, fast. The fact is, no one can live this way. No one should put that kind of pressure on themselves. More than likely, your friend happened to get pregnant that month because fertility is confusing and it may have had nothing to do with whatever she was trying at the time. Or not! It's such a crap shoot. You feel helpful, but you sound somewhat panic-inducing.

3. "Well you should probably stop [eating / drinking] [Diet Coke / insert other guilty pleasure of choice]." 
Along the same vein, please don't do this one. Don't tell me what I'm doing wrong. I've started to think that if this type of thing were really true, there would be zero babies. Noooo babies. Think about it. Alcoholics get pregnant. Crack addicts get pregnant. Undernourished teens living in poverty get pregnant. If it were as easy as giving up Diet Coke, I'd have had four babies by now, because that's how many times I've personally given up soda hoping it would lead to a baby. And! Not only that, but I drank Diet Coke through my entire pregnancy with Huck, so. (But I *am* going to give it up for real this time. Just you wait!   ??)

4. RELAX. Go on vacation! Drink some wine!
I had an older lady friend say this last one to me one Sunday. IN CHURCH. It actually went, and I quote, "Well, my youngest happened because one night I got so drunk . . ."  

5. "Maybe you should gain / lose weight."
Hey. Thanks for thinking I'm skinny / fat? Unless you're my doctor, can it.

6. "Are you sure you're doing it right?"
Hah! Look, lady.

7. "You're young, you have time!"
Don't belittle my feelings of urgency!!

8. "It'll happen on God's time."
Tell that to all the babies left in dumpsters behind the high school every year. 

9. "I know someone who struggled for YEARS to get pregnant. She adopted a baby, and then, bam!"
This may be the most egregious one of all. And yes, it happens. It's very common. But the thing is, it can take years to adopt a baby. It takes a fierce dedication to adoption to adopt a baby. Adoption is not a means to an end. Adoption is its own end. The agony of adoption is neck and neck with the agony of fertility treatments, I've seen it close up, and I'd never want introduce yet another source of angst into my life just so my uterus could maybe get a tenant once it's all signed + delivered. Telling me about your friend who adopted and got pregnant literally has nothing to do with me, unless I am actively trying to adopt as well, in which case, sure. But if I am trying to adopt, it is for the baby I'm adopting. NOT the baby I might get pregnant with later.

10. "As soon as you give up, it'll happen."
The problem with this is, if you decide to give up in the hopes that giving up will trick the fates into getting you pregnant, that's not really giving up, is it? There is literally no possible way to take this advice in the spirit in which it is intended. It's like telling me to remove my feet and put them where my hands are, it's just, like, how??

OTHER THOUGHTS

1. If you get pregnant, don't avoid telling her. 
We can take it. Dancing around the issue makes us feel even more isolated and weird, so just rip off the bandaid. We can take it. If it hurts, it isn't because we're not happy for you. We are so happy for you.

2. Even more important, if you're already pregnant, try not to complain about it around her. 
Don't even tell me how lucky I am to look good in a bathing suit or not to feel sick all the time. Don't. Even. 

3. Don't ask why she hasn't tried IVF yet. 
A friend of mine came up to me once and out of nowhere told me to just get it over with and do IVF already, because it wasn't worth the years of struggle trying to conceive, because most likely it wasn't going to work, and the thing is, not having $15,000 to throw at IVF just then, it was kind of the worst thing anyone had ever said to me, ever. 

DO SAY:

It's not fair. 

You don't deserve this.

I am so frustrated for you.

Gosh, that sucks.

I am so sorry.

It's just. not. fair.

You're going to make a really great mom someday.

My mom somehow always knew that this was the only thing I needed to hear. You know what, it's NOT fair. It isn't. Hearing her say that was like being given permission to just let out that big breath of hurt, because someone finally got it. It's just. not. fair.

OTHER THOUGHTS

1. Think of her on Mother's day. 
Bring her flowers, send her an encouraging text message. Call her Mama. I know it sounds dumb, but that was such a comfort to me every year. 

2. Let her hold your babies. 
That feels gooooood

3. Let her cry, or rage, or pout, and don't try to fix it, and don't feel strange about it, and don't feel guilty. 
Those feelings need to be felt. Honor them. While you're at it, honor the important role you're playing by just being there.

171 comments:

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  2. You're a dream Natalie Jean. Wise words from a wise soul. xxxx

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  3. You started with the isolation bit, but I think that has been the worst part for me. Everyone who is pregnant can talk openly about their experiences, and, believe me, they do. Either people are uncomfortable around my infertility so they avoid bringing it up or I'm hesitant to let them know about my experiences, so I just feel closeted. Like it's shameful or something. I want to rant online sometimes, but then am afraid of who will see my rant. Perpetuating the feeling of shame.

    Another bad part is feeling guilty about times when I've been slightly petty around a pregnant person. It's not their fault our situations are different, yet the emotion can be strong, depending on the circumstance (ex. a younger cousin suddenly announcing she's pregnant). Still feeling guilty for not being an earth mama supporter for her. Then again, she didn't say anything in support of us, and she knows what we've been going through.

    Here's hoping your infertility journey ends soon so you can open up to the next experience! And for the clarity and calm to just get there.

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    1. Amen. I totally relate! I feel petty when I am envious and annoyed when I am not given the same opportunity to share my experiences. Good luck to you.

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  4. That article on baby abandonment :( <-- a sad emoji face pales so far in comparison to the actual emotions behind reading that peice.

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  5. All of this.

    And some other types of comments that can be particularly isolating/painful:
    1. Telling me I'm "lucky" to not have to worry about birth control.
    2. Joking that, because of your abundant fertility, you can just make me a baby instead.
    3. Telling me what other life paths (excluding motherhood entirely) I should pursue -- in the mean time, or permanently. And then adding in how lucky I am to have free time. (I think, particularly this one -- because when you are waiting for motherhood...no matter how many hours you work, or degrees you complete, or how many projects you start...you still seem to have a truly oppressive amount of time during which to consider your infertility. From every angle. To integrate those ugly thoughts into: your job, your relationships, every essay you read or write. Because time isn't, itself, an isolated factor. The grass is always greener, to be sure, and I do sympathize to an extent-- but, from where infertile me is looking -- I'd greatly prefer to have my time spent being a mother than spent thinking about being a mother. Or, how I'm not one.)

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  6. Ahh, I'm so glad you posted this. I dealt with infertility and loss for quite a number of years and am actually just now opening up about it on www.rosyrilli.com. I can TOTALLY relate to all of those feelings you mentioned. I think the worst was when people said to stress less. What it felt like they were really saying is, "This is somehow your fault." I think that's pretty much the problem with most of the do NOT say list. It's that subtle suggestion that somehow you're to blame for your infertility, all during a time when ironically you feel as though you have absolutely NO control over your own body. Anyway, thanks for opening up the discussion!

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  7. Oh no. Just wrote a huge comment that didn't post... The short version is- cut your friend some slack. If you know she is struggling with infertility and she is flakier than normal or out of it... let her know it is ok. Infertility and fertility treatments are incredible emotionally and physically draining. If she cancels, tell her you will always be there. Fill the conversation with stories and questions. Let her know you are there and will be there, no matter what. xo

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  8. "You already have one. Just count your blessings!" Um. Every day of my life. My miracle baby has nothing to do with any future babies.

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  9. Thank you so much for this post. I think it applies to any situation in which a loved one is struggling. What people really need rather than advice and suggestions, is just compassion and understanding. I almost lost my life when delivering my first child a few months ago. I came very close to bleeding to death and am very lucky not to have had an emergency hysterectomy. Although I can probably still get pregnant again someday, the idea of it terrifies me. No one seems to understand and my friends and sisters (who all had perfectly smooth, natural deliveries) have told me that I will "be fine" and that "the chances of it happening again are low because it was such a rare condition". I have even been told it was my fault because I chose to be induced (as if that happens to everyone who gets induced...kind of like the diet coke comment). I got a little teary at the end of your post because all I ever wanted to hear were the things you suggested like, "this sucks" or "this wasn't fair" (which no one ever said to me). Thanks again for this post. Not only is it helpful advice for someone trying to help a loved one through infertility, but it is important for everyone to keep in mind when comforting someone going through ANY type of trial.

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    1. I am so sorry this happened to you. Something similar happened to Sherry over at Young House Love (www.younghouselove.com) with the birth of her first child. I was in tears reading her birth story. She writes about how scared she was to go through it again and eventually they did with and everything went smoothly. It might be helpful to you to read about her experience once you are ready.

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  10. Don't get upset if your friend wants to talk about it with some people and maybe not with you. For some reason, and us infertile girls can't always explain it, it's easier/less unpleasant to talk about it with some people over others. Just let us have that. Please.

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  11. Lovey list.
    I could add: don't look shocked when I burst into tears with your newborn baby in my arms... I'm happy for you, just kind of sad for me at the same time.
    Also, having one (or more) babies doesn't make the pain of infertility go away.

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    1. so true, i have an almost 4 year old son and have been trying for another for 2.5 years, and I think the pain this time round is worse than the first time…I so badly want a sibling for him.

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    2. YES!!! To all of this. I'm not trying to get pregnant a second time just to give my son a sibling but honestly, he needs one and it is sad to watch him be lonely and long for one too.

      Yes, crying with a baby in my arms and then people looks at me like I'm weird and I never get to hold them again. I'm not going to steal him!

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  12. You don't know sleep deprivation until you become a parent (which i find condescending -- there are a lot of people who have extremely demanding lives without children and parents who get sleep).

    The Gods timing thing is total BS -- I believe God wishes good things for us always, but we are human and our bodies are complicated things.

    General complaining on being a parent -- yes, you are allowed to vent but honestly sometimes venting needs to stay inside your own home.

    I appreciate when people basically say, I'm sorry and stand in agreement with me.

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  13. The complaining about being pregnant thing gets me enraged in about a tenth of a second. You got pregnant the first month or two you started trying, and now you're whining about being pregnant. I've been pregnant before too... yes it is hard... yes it is uncomfortable. But it is a HUGE blessing denied to many. Every uncomfortable night I was pregnant was an answer to my prayers.

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    1. I have a really hard time with this -- It's also made me hyper aware of what I am complaining about that other people might be secretly longing for...we just complain far too much in general!

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    2. I agree that this one is the worst. A friend of mine (who got pregnant 2 months after getting married) once told me when she was about 8 months in that she felt "pathetic." YOU feel pathetic?! I wanted to scream. To take the blessing of life within your body and turn it into a personal complaint about discomfort is just so wrong. And she knew what we were going through too.

      The thing I appreciate the most (and what I ask for when it comes up) is when friends and family members tell us they are praying for us.

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    3. you know, i agree with all of this, but pregnant women have feelings too and they should be allowed to complain about the uncomfortableness of being pregnant without being judged the same way that you are asking to be allowed to complain about not being pregnant without being judged.

      just a thought.

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  14. also people always assume it is the woman. in our case it was my husband, and this is another issue than NEVER get discussed. thankfully we were able to have IVF and now have beautiful 6 year old twin boys. i went through 3 rounds of IVF before they were born and then tried again (unsuccessfully twice more after they were born). it is hard and it sucks and it is not fair. xo

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  15. ALL OF THIS. When I am in a group of my friends and the conversation is ALWAYS about daycare, and breastfeeding, and diapers, and all that jazz the loneliness becomes tangible. Then the awkward faces come out and then the inevitable "girls..I am sure Danielle is bored to death" Yes I am bored...and devastated and sad and left out and all of those things....but pointing it out to everyone just makes it worse. UGH! Infertility is the suckiest of all sucks.

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  16. "Oh... clearly that's not an issue we struggle with." Is what my sister in law nonchalantly said to me when we visited them after their second was born, and I confessed we'd been trying for a baby unsuccessfully.

    "You're so young, you have so much time." Like having a baby while I'm young is a bad thing? And my deep, heart-wrenching desire for a baby right now should just be disregarded because I have years still ahead of me?

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  17. The worst thing someone has said to me was "Oh I thought you just hated kids and that's why you don't have them." I wanted to punch her in the face. Or when people just tell me to get IVF over and done with, like i have 20,000 just hanging around.

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  18. so many good things about this post. I wish more people just said I'm sorry you're going through this. It sucks. It's unfair. The next time I have someone tell me that it's in God's hands...I will junk punch them and say "you know why." well, at least that's what I would love to do.

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  19. i appreciate this list. i am the friend of many ladies struggling with infertility, and want very much to be supportive, but feel SO incapable because i do not personally know their struggle by experience. so the perspective is really helpful.

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  20. Thank you for posting this. A friend of mine was very honest and said she just didn't know what to say to me. Her honesty was so refreshing. That was the one response I appreciated the most. Please don't say God has a plan or suggest I adopt as I am going through my second miscarriage. Wtf!?

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  21. When I was struggling to *successfully* get and more importantly STAY pregnant (luteal phase defect resulting in multiple chemical pregnancies) with my second baby, my sister stopped talking to me for 3 months because I wasn't excited enough for her when she announced that she was pregnant, the first month of trying. So that, don't do that.

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  22. Like you, Natalie, I am infertile-lite. So yes, it's great that that means my likelihood of having a child is pretty high. But when people point that fact out it not only undermines and delegitimizes my feelings but also makes me feel guilty for, idk, I guess not being more grateful that I'm not MORE infertile? You wouldn't tell someone she's not allowed to be upset about backing into a mailbox because at least she didn't drive off a cliff.

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  24. This is so well put, Natalie. There are so many things that people say that just cut to the quick. The two that hurt the most (lately at least) are "you'll be next!!!" and, as a response to me saying something about some part of my body, "just wait until you're pregnant, {whatever I was complaining about} is SO MUCH WORSE when you're pregnant!" In the years that we've been trying I can't tell you how many times I've been told I'd be next. And I haven't been. And even though when they say it I know that it probably won't be true, it is a painful reminder that I'm missing something. And don't even get me started on pregnant people hijacking my conversation to complain about something that I so desperately want.

    The worst thing anyone has ever said to me was at my sister's wedding- a friend of the family told me to stop being "so selfish" and give my dad a grand baby already. I used some choice words with her...

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  25. Hey, I love this. I was raped three times in a matter of three months when I was 18. I don't understand the pain of being infertile, but I sure as hell understand pain. These "taboo" subjects are oh so delicate, and I get it. Isolation is in full swing where I sit. I don't have a hint at how to rev up your baby abilities, but I've felt broken before.

    Here, watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

    From Erika saying: Hey, I know what it's like down here, and you're not alone.
    I LOVE YA, Natalie!

    xoxo

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  26. I think what is hardest for me is when co-workers use their kids as an excuse for not being able to do something (i.e. I have to cancel my meeting because my daughter has soccer practice) or say something to the effect of you don't understand because you don't have kids. Seriously, people can be so insensitive. If you can't keep a commitment, just say I am sorry, something came up.

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    1. Ok, I'm sorry but that's ridiculous. Sure, the second part of it is insensitive, but would you rather I lie about why I can't do something versus say it's because of something with my kids? My heart goes out to people who struggle with infertility, but I can't tiptoe around everyone else, wondering if saying I'm tired because my baby kept me up or I can't make that event because I can't find a babysitter is offending someone who can't have kids. A comment above said we should excuse someone for flaking out on us because infertility, but yet I can't tell the truth about not being able to do something because I have kids? C'mon. I can't imagine the pain of infertility, and truly do feel it is unfair, I can't stop the world from turning because of it. Sorry.

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  27. Oh best things! When your friends take care of you. I was on a work trip right after a second round of unsuccessful IVF. One of our good friends lived nearby and I spent the night with them before I had to go back home. My friend and her husband (my husband's college buddy) took such good care of me. He watched the kids (3 1/2 and 6 months) so his wife and I could have a nice dinner and he made sure they had my favorite chocolate to eat when we got back. They both just made me feel so loved. It was such a nice diversion from everything else that was happening in my life.

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  28. I think most painful experiences during infertility were holidays. My husband comes from a huge family, and for a period of time there, every Christmas and family holiday, someone was announcing their pregnancy. You want to be so happy for that person, and you are, really, you are! But it still always felt like a gut punch, you're the first person the whole family turns and looks forlornly at after the announcement. Nothing you can do about it. It's just the worst. Luckily, my husband's family was the most supportive of us during our infertility journey. Soon after we had a miscarriage, his brother called to tell us that they were pregnant with their second baby, and at about 12 weeks along, she couldn't hide it anymore. He said they had wanted to wait as long as they could out of respect for us, knowing how difficult that would be having just lost our baby. It's probably one of the most thoughtful and compassionate things anyone has ever done for us.

    The other tough one is at work... I used to work in an office where if someone wanted to annouce their pregnancy, our boss would send an email saying "Pink or Blue, guess who?" and everyone would go around guessing who was pregnant. There is nothing more discouraging to an infertile person having to field people stopping by your desk all day saying... "Is it you!?" Nope, no its not. Then the onslught of the comments you listed in this post. "Why don't you adopt?" "Oh, you're next then!" "RELAX, it will happen!"

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  29. I had some problems when trying to conceive my daughter, I felt so sad and frustrated... One day my best friend told me something that made me feel great. It could seem stupid, but she made me feel so good. She told me that no matter what happens in the future, I was already a mother.

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  30. Also, I wanted to add... Thank you for your insight on adoption, too. My husband and I decided early on that we would never adopt. As insensitive as it sounds, our dream was to have OUR baby, not just A baby. I think the misconception is that Adoption is a fallback, like if you can't have a baby, you can just go get one. Infertility and Adoption are two completely different things. Thank you for putting that so eloquently in this post.

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    1. They are definitely different things but I definitely don't like the reference to adoption using the words "just A baby"

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    2. Those of us who adopt consider our children OUR babies. What Natalie said about adoption and infertility was very well written and right on, and they are definitely two different things. But what you are saying here is very offensive to those of us who adopt and, more importantly, to OUR children.

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    3. I apologize for choosing the wrong words. My husband and I were well aware that both adoption and IVF were going to be difficult to go through, so we decided to focus our energy on having a biological child without IVF and if it didnt happen, then it didn't happen, we would be at peace with that. Natalie asked what was hard for people going through infertility, and as it is being made clear, explaining why you weren't prepared to adopt was difficult without offending someone, namely people who had adopted already.

      Of course your babies are your babies. They are incredible and amazing and you are amazing people both for having the desire to adopt a child and make them your very own. I applaud you for that, having not being cut from that same cloth.

      I was, however, cut from the cloth that struggled to get pregnant for 7 years and then give birth to a 2 pound baby at 26 weeks gestation, who lived her first months of live in the NICU. We have all arrived at motherhood in different ways. I hope you can respect that in me as I respect your strength in your path to motherhood.

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    4. I absolutely respect your desire to have a biological child and you doing everything in your power to make that happen! I totally agree with you that adoption and infertility are two different things, and adoption doesn't fix infertility. I was blessed to have always had the desire to adopt, long before I even knew infertility would be an issue for us, and I know that is not the case for everyone. It's just sometimes hard for us adoptive parents to hear other people referring to our kids as if they aren't really ours or are "just A baby", because every adoptive parent will tell you we all consider our kids very much our own and love them as our own. I am so glad that you ended up being able to have a baby and applaud you for not giving up, because I know I still haven't :)

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  31. When people would tell me that obviously it just isn't the right time, or that it wasn't what God wanted for me yet.

    Oh, so God thinks I suck and is making me go through this when other women can get pregnant just by looking at a man? Kay, thanks.

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    1. And I want to also say that I do totally agree that God has a plan, but for fertile women to tell me it over and over hurts.

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    2. YES!!!! Honestly, it's like they're saying, "There are so many spirits that need bodies right now but God doesn't trust you and he thinks you suck so you can't have one but that drug addict? I'm gonna give her four." I know that's not what they actually said but that is exactly what it FEELS like.

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  33. Also, I totally second the whole complaining about pregnancy to infertile friends. I had a friend who had a hard time getting pregnant alongside me. She was my complaining buddy. We complained and vented and cried to each other about how hard it all was to see other women have babies so easily.

    Then she got pregnant and proceeded to complain about how crappy she felt while I was still there, chugging along, trying so hard. It honestly kind of hurt our friendship for a bit there, because I couldn't handle it, which I guess makes me sound like a baby, but it was hard.

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  34. This may be inappropriate to post on this post.. maybe, I do not know.

    I am not someone that struggles with fertility. I am currently pregnant with my fourth child. Four pregnancies in twelve years. Apparently that means that everyone can make comments about how fertile I am. "Oh you must be soooo fertile" or plainly referring to me as "fertile myrtle" or possibly even making a statement about how often my husband and I must get it on.. I mean really.. why don't we just stop making comments about fertility in general. It makes me feel like I should be embarrassed for having four kids ..

    Fertility is private whether you struggle or not. With that being said...

    I am sorry you're going through this.
    It's just not fair.

    It really does suck.

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    1. I totally agree with this. I'm dealing with secondary infertility myself. I have a sister with 4 kids and the looks she gets and the things people say. Geesh! Why do people have to comment on fertility?! It's such a personal thing. But everyone seems to have to comment on it! Even single people! People want to know when they are having kids! Maybe they don't want kids? Maybe they would like to be married for awhile? Maybe their infertile? When you have one people want o know why you don't have 2? And then when you have 3 or 4 they want to know WHY you're having so many! I mean come on! Just stop judging and stop all the advice. I hate unsolicited advice.

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  35. May I also add, I think this can go for SO MANY other situations. Compassion and empathy and consideration go so far. Our baby died in April, our full term 9 pound beautiful baby died 45 minutes after birth due to a rare heart problem that we knew nothing about. We left the hospital with an empty car seat and broken hearts. People have said the DARNDEST things to me "My grandma died ten years ago! We lost a dog this year! At least he isn't suffering! You can have another baby eventually!" My point is, if you don't know what to say, just say how terribly sorry you are. It helps to feel sympathy.

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    1. I'm really really sorry to hear about your baby. I think sometimes people in these situations have no clue how to react so they react awkwardly and it turns into the comments above which just sound so awful. However they really should have said nothing at all if they couldn't come up with something better than what they said to you, or at least just say how sorry they were.

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    2. so sorry! my son was born with a heart defect as well, it's an awful awful surprise. xo

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  36. it happened once it'll happen again!! do? don't? it's what came to my mind.

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  37. All I can say about this post is YES YES YES. Oh my gosh YES.

    I admire you so much for being so open about all this. I hate that fertility, miscarriages, getting pregnant in general, is so hush hush. Isn't the whole purpose of this life to be there for each other, supporting, loving, learning, growing? How can we do that when we are quiet about the hardest things. If more people were open about it, probably more people would be more understanding and get why certain things are just really hard to hear, even with the best intentions.

    Ughh...I'm really really really sorry you have to go through this. It's the worst!

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  38. Hi Natalie. I never comment but have read your blog for a little over a year. I connect with your writing so much and appreciate that you write about hardship and pain with humor and relatability. This post is dead on. Whether it's infertility or any other heartbreak, I think we all just want someone to listen and validate our feelings. NO ONE WANTS YOUR ADVICE. People will make meaning of their own experiences. Just listen and validate. Love this post so much.

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  39. "Oh. Well, you can always adopt."

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  40. this was a great post. i have a friend who has said a few things that make me think she's struggling with infertility, but she's never actually told me or said anything really conclusive. i am currently pregnant with my first, and i'm never sure what to say to her. how much to share. if the friend doesn't tell you anything, what do you do? do you pretend that you don't know? let them know that you do know?

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  41. This is really eye-opening and I'm better for reading it. I've said some of these things, for lack of better things to say or sheer pani. I've also heard a lot of these as I too am trying to get pregnant for the first time. I seem to be surrounded by women who say "it just happened" or "the first time we tried". Hearing that does not help me because clearly that's not what's happening to me. The absolute WORST is "stop trying", that literally does not make sense. Thank you for sharing so openly, it helps every person who reads it. You ROCK.

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  42. I'm one of those people, the ones for whom even the word sperm can lead to spontaneous fertilization. But my very best friend, who's been my very best friend since we were wide-eyed eleven year old girls dreaming of our someday babies, she is struggling with fertility. And her grace and bravery positively shake me to my core, never have I seen such open-hearted honest-to-goodness willingness to do whatever it takes to just bring a healthy baby into the world, the natural way. I really love and admire her for how genuinely happy she is for me and my brood of babies, and my heart breaks because I feel so inept, so unable to be helpful in any real sense. And so I listen. And I tell her that her baby is waiting for her, and is trying just as hard to get to her as she is to bring that baby here, to her, where it belongs. You ladies who share this detour, you have a lot to give, and your babies are so so lucky because you love them from a place those of us who are afraid of getting pregnant *again* will never understand. Thank you for sharing, and for giving me something to offer me friend who needs to hear what you have to say. xo

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    1. "You ladies who share this detour, you have a lot to give, and your babies are so so lucky because you love them from a place those of us who are afraid of getting pregnant *again* will never understand."

      This, to me anyway, is exactly the RIGHT thing to say. Thank you.

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    2. It sounds like you are a great friend. What thoughtful words.

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    3. This made me cry. Thank you for your thoughtful words.

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  43. Along the same lines: when I share that I've miscarried and have been trying for a while to get pregnant again, I've had multiple people who are parents go "Aw, that sucks....because, having kids is so great and amazing and I love my kids so much more than I ever could have known..." and they'll go on and on about how wonderful children are??? ??? I get that they're trying to use their parenthood experience to relate to me in an uncomfortable conversation buuuuut is their glorious & spectacular fortune really what I need to hear?

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  44. This is the most comforting thing someone (a total stranger) told me after I lost my baby three years ago: "strength to you and keep plugging away". It was Natalie. I was lucky that it worked eventually but I recently had another loss. It sucks, it's not fair, but I guess I'll just "keep at it". Strength to all of us!

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  45. what a very thoughtful post! i've been on both sides of the equation, and i still struggle with what to say to others trying. god, i hope i've never said any of those things!! but i love your suggestions. thanks for sharing.

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  46. "this happens all the time to everyone, you just noticed it this time." -re: chemical pregnancy. from a man. not ok, from anyone, ever. :'( rationalizing and trying to "normalize" infertility might work for someone, but i haven't met her yet. also, if it's happening to one person in the relationship, it's happening to both, and this needs to be recognized by everyone within and outside of the relationship. validation! for ourselves and each other! <3

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    1. I've had that one a few times, like I'm a psycho for paying so much attention that I actually noticed. Not cool, not cool at all!

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  47. Worst:
    After a miscarriage on our honeymoon - it's nature's way of getting rid of a baby that wasn't right.
    Well at least you got pregnant.
    At Christmas lunch two weeks after the miscarriage with my sisters-in-law who are both expecting, my grandmother said, "You look tired... You're upset because they're pregnant and you're not"... ha! State the obvious, lady.

    Best:
    When people tell you their own struggles or stories of loss.

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    1. Yes! I had that too... apparently my miscarriage was actually a blessing because obviously something wasn't right with the baby, so, close call!

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    2. Agreed on the "well at least you can get pregnant" comment. Yes, I can get pregnant but my babies die in my body. That statement is not a consolation.

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  48. My sister went through 4 painful (literally and figuratively) and very late miscarriages. Never have felt so angry and sad about anything and it wasn't even me! Facebook for her was the enemy and eventually she left it. What amazed me was how sensitive some people were and how insensitive others could be. This is such an important article that you have written. Thank you.

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  49. If one more person tells me that everything will happen when its meant to (and if it doesn't happen it isn't meant to, so suck it up - this last gem from a close friend with two babies and zero fertility struggles) I Will Rip Their Face Off. Unless you have experienced this very same thing, you don't get to have an opinion on how I should or should not accept God's will for my motherhood. Also, telling me to just relax and it'll happen naturally is akin to blaming me for my infertility, because in your expert medical opinion if I could stop stressing about it (impossible) I'd start popping out babies. This very emotionally intuitive response I got from a man to whom I'd just explained I'd had a miscarriage and a further year of very expensive AI treatments... Also, since I'm married to a woman even if I was to be all zen-like and went on holiday as you suggest (who has money left for that) short of wind pollination it's not going to happen 'naturally' once I relax. I'm always stumped at those remarks.
    The worst thing to do is to be like my family and utterly ignore that I even had a miscarriage (although that is tied up to all sorts of religious issues). This is an excruciating, terrrible thing to go through and nothing anyone can say will make it better, but offer love and be there. Its a very hard road to walk alone.

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  50. Love these tips so much. I can't believe someone would suggest adopting to get pregnant. Gosh -Hanna Lei

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  52. This is relevant to all of us. As the above comments clearly show, a lot of hurt and damage can result from insensitive, thoughtless comments. I don't have experience with infertility per se, but I do recall the feelings of hurt and despair when I miscarried my second child. I remember sitting in a waiting room full of pregnant ladies with a dead fetus in my belly. I never felt more alone. Of course I got all the usual blah blah blah comments, none of which made me feel any better. Most of them made me feel much worse. The only person who was able to reach me at all was my then four year old son. I remember tucking him in and he said to me: "The baby is dead Mommy?" I said Yes, it is. And then he looked at me and said: "Mommy Ian just wasn't ready to come down from Heaven yet." (he knew we wanted to name the baby Ian if it was a boy) He succeeded in comforting me where nobody else had. I know struggling to become and stay pregnant is an incredibly difficult and lonely journey. It sucks and it isn't fair. Our Ian was born nearly fourteen years ago. He is profoundly autistic.

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  53. This post actually made me really mad, I loved what Natalie had to say 100% of the time up till now. So if you had a friend who was pregnant and genuinely felt awful, she couldn't share that with you? You don't think she's aloud your support just because she got pregnant and you can't at the moment.? Sorry but that's just wrong and hurtful. You sound very unlike yourself, specially since you have an amazing little boy already, you should be grateful ....not complaining because you want more. I'm sorry I just feel like you should be happy with what your blessed with, and not make others feel bad because of what their blessed with. This post is sad...

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    1. that's not it AT all. And those comments you're making are super hurtful to the rest of us who are infertile. This post is meant so you can understand a small fraction of what is going on in the head of someone dealing with secondary infertility. You can bet we are grateful for our ONE child but that doesn't mean we are greedy for wanting another child. That's a very insensitive comment on your part.

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  54. I can't have a second child. My first experience with childbirth was so traumatic, so damaging and so dehumanizing that even though I can physically conceive, with some measure of tolerable risk, I will never ever EVER put myself in that situation again. My choices and my agency were taken from me not by nature, but by other people.

    So, you know, there are two ways of looking at this. One is "it's so hard that I can't easily conceive a second child." Another is "I'm fortunate that I have one, and that experience was positive enough for me to consider the possibility of a second." This blog post is meant to be cute, I get it, but it also seems to lack a measure of perspective and self-awareness.

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    1. No, you "won't" have a second child. That is much different than "can't."

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  55. I have two little girls that I share half of the time with their dad. When they are gone for summer vacation or a long holiday it gets really hard and lonely and a lot of the time I get these similar callous comments..."Well at least you don't have to be out here trick or treating with us"...or "Oh my gosh, that sounds so nice to not have your kids for two weeks" and the list goes on. I know that this is no where near the struggle of being infertile but my heart goes out to you and to all others like you. I am so sorry. Life is not fair and it's mean and it's hard and it's full of lots of un-empathetic witches who should just live with their stinky foot in their mouths. Hugs being sent your way.

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  56. Complaints about pregnancy and, even more so, complaints about their children are the hardest to hear. I try to be sympathetic because we all have different trials, but hearing someone be upset over having children was the worst. Similarly, the comments like "enjoy your freedom while you can!" are terrible.

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  57. I have a very vivid memory of informing my girlfriends over wine one night that I loved them, but I physically could not hear any of their encouragement any more. No offerings of hope, no pieces of advice, no pushes to give something up or add something to my diet would change my fate. I was infertile and I just needed them to acknowledge that it was a disease that I lived with in isolation and if they could just listen and hug me and say "That f-ing sucks" that would be more than enough. And they did as I asked and I'll tell you it made all those foolish, unthoughtful, awful comments from strangers and my mother's friends and the random old ladies at church so much more bearable. Because even though my friends weren't going through it, they finally knew how to love me in the thick of it. Those years were the hardest of my life and I'm still trying to recover from them and from this continued infertility that keeps me from a second child.

    Natalie this sucks. Sending you a giant virtual hug from NC.

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  58. We actively tried to conceive for about five years. Our infertility is unexplained- everything looks perfect, but we still can't conceive. We came to terms with that and have peace about never having biological children. Then we adopted our amazing son. Adoption was a completely separate journey than infertility for us. It was never intended to cure us. We are still infertile, we just don't care anymore.

    Nevertheless, three years later, people still tell me stories about so and so who adopted and went on to have six children. Or so and so who got pregnant at age 50. I do not even want to get pregnant at this point. I definitely do not want to get pregnant at 50 (anyone who does, more power to you, I just don't) So I looked this up- in couples who adopt after infertility, 5% go on to have biological children. Some of probably sought more fertility treatments to do so. Still, its just 5%. That is not a lot. I think it seems higher because a) it makes a great story so everyone tells and retells it and b) many people do just adopt first by choice without fertility issues at all.

    The other thing that makes me crazy is the people who ask why we didn't just do IVF. We had lots of reasons for not doing IVF. A very big reason was the low success rates. Everyone assumes IVF always works. It doesn't. A top candidate has about a 40% chance of conceiving per cycle. Most women have a 25% chance per cycle. The actual live birth rate is much lower than that. Fertility clinics count it as a success if pregnancy is achieved. So here is my PSA- check with your clinic about exactly what their stats mean! Also, some people do adopt after trying IVF. Don't assume that they adopted because they live under a rock and have never heard of science.

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  60. Great post. I have a couple friends that I think are hitting through this, and this helps.

    Also, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this PLUS all the insensitive crap people say (intentional and not). Not fair, indeed!

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  61. Great post. I have a couple friends that I think are hitting through this, and this helps.

    Also, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this PLUS all the insensitive crap people say (intentional and not). Not fair, indeed!

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  62. This is a great post, Natalie. I loved reading these, and I can totally relate. One more thing not to say: anything about having fun trying. No. It's not fun at all to try to conceive, and be unsuccessful. It's not romantic or sexy, and it's just stressful and depressing. Anyway, that's my least fave comment I got. Anyway, I loved this post, and your writing style, as always. You were spot on about all of it. Lots of love. It sucks and is unfair - it really is. Hang in there.

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  63. A few more I just thought of: "I get pregnant if my husband just LOOKS at me!" Ok. Thanks? And also if you do complain when you eventually get pregnant (which I feel a woman should be allowed to do, especially since I get hyperemesis and pregnancy is miserable and dangerous to my health), when people remind you how much you wanted to be pregnant. Not helpful!

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  64. Amen and Amen!! Finally. Someone said it.

    My personal favourite is when people tell me what I should or shouldn't be doing. Or they'll send me articles on the subject. I couldn't help it the last time when I looked my friend in the face and said, "I know how google works." She looked at me like I slapped her. But honestly, I wish I would have. Seriously? You think you can just type in something on the internet and you think I've not read it? You like I've not spend years pouring myself into that kind of thing looking for a solution? But you can just find something and boom. You have the answer. But I'm not smart enough to do that.

    I had someone ask me if it bothered me to be around her 4 children because I can't have any more. I just stared at her. Honestly? You having 4 kids has nothing to do with me. No it doesn't bother me. But that comment does and maybe I will stay away from now on.

    I also hate it when someone tells me they know what I'm going through because they've been trying for 3 months. I want to laugh in their face.


    I hate it when people tell me it's a good thing I don't have any more kids. My 4 yr old is autistic. They tell me about how much I'd be dealing with then and how good it is and God must really know that I can't handle any more and that's why he's not giving me more. Just don't. Don't. That's the most hurtful thing you can say to me. God will give babies to drug addicts and teenagers but not to me who has a special needs child and wants to love on more kids. That's super hurtful.

    I could go on but I'm really just unloading here. Feels like a safe place to do it! Hopefully.

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  65. You should consider your blessings, at least you are able to get pregnant - which is such a comfort after you have miscarried yet again

    And my particular favourite is oh dear, we just have to look at each other to get pregnant *silly giggle* - well lucky lucky you - some empathy might be useful now...

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  66. It wasn't until reading this that I realized how hypocritical I've been as an infertile myrtle. If I'm allowed to complain about my situation why can't another woman complain in her situation? I truly belive most people aren't trying to be insensitive. I think the best thing to do always is mourn with those that mourn. Comfort those that stand in need of comfort and I'll add rejoice with those that rejoice! Ex: you're infertile? I'm sorry that's not fair and that's got that be so hard. Ex: you have morning sickness and are exhausted and feel terrible? I'm sorry that's hard too. Ex: You're pregnant?! What a joyous amazing time! I'm so happy for you. Thank you for this post, I'm glad I was able to learn and work on change.

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  67. After a miscarriage, being told "Well, at least you weren't too far along." Ugh.

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  68. You've covered a lot of the comments I used to get. I also loved, "you can always adopt." Actually adoption is incredibly hard these days. I also really enjoyed, "It's seems like it must be something in your head" or "We got pregnant the first time trying so I just can't understand when people can't." (My step-brother actually combined the last two -- told me he and his wife were like rabbits and then proceeded to tell me that women who can't get pregnant are crazy in the head).

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  69. Thank you for saying the words my heart needed to hear. Shed a tear at the end, simple empathetic and all I have been craving to hear.

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    1. Yes! I literally couldn't have said this better myself! I really needed to read this today.

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  70. i am infertile. secondary, i guess - one beautiful daughter and an ectopic with a mirena iud that ended any hopes of a natural pregnancy afterward. she is 7 now and being a one child family is a perfect fit for us. things happen for a reason. sometimes it just takes time to find peace and acceptance with what life brings.

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  71. I am in a different situation than most people here because my friends and family do not know about the struggles of infertility and miscarriages my husband and I have experienced in the last couple of years. I am not sure why I haven't opened up, maybe because in my head I feel like a failure. So most of these comments I have never heard. Although I am happy for my friends who are getting pregnant now with their 2nd and 3rd babies, I still can't help but feel a little petty and heart broken that I can't even have one baby. It's a daily struggle to stay positive and not become bitter. I appreciate your openness about the struggles that you are going through because even though I don't know you, reading what you write feels a little like I am getting my feelings off my chest. Thank you.

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  72. Like really, you are an answer to my prayers! I just had to be in the dang hospital for this exact reason and it's mortifying, humiliating, and soooooo tramatizing. But it has taken a loooooooooot of therapy appointments to come to terms with being grateful for your life right now! Not that it makes it any easier or more enjoyable, it is manageable (almost). I am lucky and have a two 1/2 year old and she is exactly what I needed to get this trial. We didn't even know I would have this problem until three weeks ago! She is spunky, fiesty, sassy, loving, and so dang cute. Huck should get introduced in a few years ;). In fact, I have always wanted to live in NYC so maybe someday haha.

    Thanks for this. It was exactly what I needed and exactly what I need to combat these next few years of trial and hurt. Love ya girl.

    simplykatebowtique@yahoo.com

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  73. Thank you for this...infertility is lonely, that is what is the worst about it...and gosh, this is just such good advice....
    <3

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  74. These are great, and I remember a wonderful email from you telling me those very things! It helped so much. I still have it, and I still read it.

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  75. This is my testimony about the good work of a man who helped me..My name is Nina George and I base in London.My life is back!!! After 8 years of marriage, my husband left me and left me with our three kids. I felt like my life was about to end,and was falling apart. Thanks to a spell caster called papa Justus who i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was searching for a good spell caster that can solve my problems. I came across series of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. There was one particular testimony I saw, it was about a woman called grace,she testified about how papa Justus brought back her Ex lover in less than 72 hours and at the end of her testimony she drop papa Justus e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give papa a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 3 days, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before. papa Justus is really a talented and gifted man and i will not to stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man...If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve that problem for you. Try the great papa Justus today, he might be the answer to your problem. Here's his contact:
    drabeljustus@gmail.com Thank you great Justus. Contact him for the following:

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  76. -Just enjoy it and love the free time. Have been. Thanks.
    -Also, I've noticed something I call the "abandonment theory." Friends who get scared because it takes a few months longer than they thought and so they come to me and tell me they know exactly how I feel, and ask for advice, and we bond over our mutual barrenness. Then, a few months later they inevitably get pregnant, false alarm, and then leave me high and dry, conveniently forgetting I am still childless. Once they get pregnant they always forget to ask how I'm doing, even though we will talk about their pregnancies. Sometimes it is just nice to be asked how I am once in awhile. Sometimes I just need to vent and let it out. I hate the awkwardness when people feel like they can't talk to me about it. I still need a friend. Ya know?

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  77. Hello everyone, i am here to share my testimony on how i conceived my baby. i have been married to my husband for 12years without no issue.i had problems with my in-laws even my husband started to have new affairs aside our marriage. it was a very terrible thing to bear. i became a laughing stock among my pear, i prayed and fasted and nothing happened. i was now seen as always unhappy.i was even ready to pack out of my marital home and stay on my own because my husband was not given me any attention that i needed from him. i decided to focus on my job and try to live happy on my own. on this faithful day, i decided to check the internet for updates on healthy living and i came across a story of a woman called mercy, saying that Dr aza helped her to conceive a baby. i decided to give him a try because this has been my greatest problem in life. today i am a proud mother with a son. words will not be enough to explained what this man did for me.i am a happy mother,i know there is someone in same condition and you feel there is no way. i urge you to contact him. This is the solution to every single mother around the globe. distance is not a barrier, he will surely make your dreams come trough. contact him today via email: azaspellcaster@gmail.com you contacts him with his via number +2348107155060

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  78. Hello everyone, i am here to share my testimony on how i conceived my baby. i have been married to my husband for 12years without no issue.i had problems with my in-laws even my husband started to have new affairs aside our marriage. it was a very terrible thing to bear. i became a laughing stock among my pear, i prayed and fasted and nothing happened. i was now seen as always unhappy.i was even ready to pack out of my marital home and stay on my own because my husband was not given me any attention that i needed from him. i decided to focus on my job and try to live happy on my own. on this faithful day, i decided to check the internet for updates on healthy living and i came across a story of a woman called mercy, saying that Dr aza helped her to conceive a baby. i decided to give him a try because this has been my greatest problem in life. today i am a proud mother with a son. words will not be enough to explained what this man did for me.i am a happy mother,i know there is someone in same condition and you feel there is no way. i urge you to contact him. This is the solution to every single mother around the globe. distance is not a barrier, he will surely make your dreams come trough. contact him today via email: azaspellcaster@gmail.com you contacts him with his via number +2348107155060

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  79. Hello everyone, i am here to share my testimony on how i conceived my baby. i have been married to my husband for 12years without no issue.i had problems with my in-laws even my husband started to have new affairs aside our marriage. it was a very terrible thing to bear. i became a laughing stock among my pear, i prayed and fasted and nothing happened. i was now seen as always unhappy.i was even ready to pack out of my marital home and stay on my own because my husband was not given me any attention that i needed from him. i decided to focus on my job and try to live happy on my own. on this faithful day, i decided to check the internet for updates on healthy living and i came across a story of a woman called mercy, saying that Dr aza helped her to conceive a baby. i decided to give him a try because this has been my greatest problem in life. today i am a proud mother with a son. words will not be enough to explained what this man did for me.i am a happy mother,i know there is someone in same condition and you feel there is no way. i urge you to contact him. This is the solution to every single mother around the globe. distance is not a barrier, he will surely make your dreams come trough. contact him today via email: azaspellcaster@gmail.com you contacts him with his via number +2348107155060

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  80. I have something to share with you!!! There is a great joy in my heart which I want to share with everyone. My name is Ella. I had a misunderstanding with my lover a few years ago; which led to us to break up and he never wanted to hear my voice again. He saw a beautiful love more prettier than myself, but as time went on I met Doctor ogbo. He is a great spell caster (medicine man ). I contacted him through his email and explained everything to him. He said that I shouldn't worry, that my lover will come back to me on his knees begging for forgiveness. I bought an item that he told me to buy for the preparation of the spell. After everything was prepared he told me that my lover will come to me with 24 hours begging. My greatest joy now is that he actually came back to me and fell on his knees begging for forgiveness, and today we are happy. Do you have any problem with your loved one? Do not know what to do? Well worry no more because Doctor ogbo can provide you with a spell to get him or her back. With the help of a spell just as he helped me. Contact Doctor ogbo today via email for your spell: drogbospellhome1500@gmail.com

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  81. Good day, I am DONALD MARIA by name , I am so proud and happy to be out here sharing
    this remarkable, awesome and extraordinary review of your work DR. OTONU. I just can't believe
    this, now my ex lover is really back to me today, my love Karrie was on his knees begging me to take him back and he was feeling regretful and sorry for leaving me and for causing me pains after he left me which was 3 years ago.On a faithful day i was browsing looking for solution on-line, i saw so many testimonial about prophet DR.OTONU on how he helped so many people to restore relationship and resolve marriage issues,After reading all these, I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 24 hours, my ex lover came back to me. We resolved our issues, and we are even happier than ever, DR.OTONU you are a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man.Thank you once more again for putting smile not just on my face but also alot of people around the globe by restoring their broken relationship. If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine , Try him anytime, he is the answer to your problems You can reach him on this email:(otonuspelltemple@gmail.com) or (otonuspelltemple@outlook.com)
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    Remember to contact him on this address :otonuspelltemple@gmail.com or otonuspelltemple@outlook.com or call hom on telephone +2348169616855

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  82. I have a great joy writing this article to share the wonderful work Dr Adura, I never believed in Spells or Magic until I met this special spell caster called Dr Adura,the woman i wanted to marry left me 2 months to our weeding ceremony and my life was turned upside down,she was with me for 4 years and i really love her so much,she left me for another man with no reasons,when i called her she never picked up my calls and she don’t want to see me around her,but one day i was checking a friend blog when i suddenly saw a comment on how Dr Adura helped a man to bring back his ex lover,so i contacted his email, draduraspelltemple@gmail.com thereafter i told him about my present situation and Dr Adura review to me that the other man has done some spells on my woman and that is the reason why she left me,Dr Adura promise me that he will help me to cast a spell to bring her back to me,at first i was skeptical but i just gave it a try,In 3 day,she called me herself and came to me apologizing,I cant believe she can ever come back to me again but now i am happy she’s back and we are married now and we live as a happy family,With the help of Dr Adura your situation can be turnaround contact his email:draduraspelltemple@gmail.com or his mobile:+2347089978383.

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  83. My name is Corey Darlene i am very happy for the wonderful work Dr Udaze has done for me i got married to my lovely husband last year February and we have a lovely son. things was going well with us and we are living happily. until one day my husband started behaving in a strange manner i could not understand, i was very confused with the way he treat me and my son. later that month he did not come home again and he called me that he want a divorce, i asked him what have i done wrong to deserve this from him, all he was saying is that he want a divorce that he hate me and do not want to see me again in his life, i was sad and also frustrated i did not know what to do,i was sick for more than a week because of the divorce. i love him so much he his everything to me without him my life is incomplete. i told one of my child hood friend and she told me to contact a spell caster that she has listen to one woman who testify about Dr Udaze and she has been hearing about him that i should try him i never believe in all this spell casting of a thing but i just say i should try if something will come out of it. i contacted Dr Udaze for the return of my husband to me, he told me that my husband have been taken by another woman. that she cast a spell on him that is why he hate me and also want to divorce me. then he told me that has to cast a spell on him that will make him return to me and my son, he casted the spell and after 1 day my husband came back home and started apologizing he said that he love me so much that he did not know what happen to him that he left me. it was the spell that Dr Udaze casted on him that make him come back to me,right now am so happy again. thank you Dr Udaze for what you have done for me i would have been nothing today if not for your great spell. this is to every one who is facing divorces or heart break by your lover i want you to contact him now because he can do it for you his powers is great and dont have any side effect in the future contact him through his mail: dr.udazelovespelltemple@yahoo.com .contact him now and your problems will be solve for ever.once again thanks to Dr Udaze.

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  84. I am Kate Hawkins from United States of America, i want to quickly post a comment on a love spell caster that just brought my Husband back home to me and my kids, My Husband left me and my kids for another Woman and He filled for a Divorce paper, I was not comfortable with this because i love him so much, so i contacted a spell caster called Dr Olumu, He was directed to me by a friend of mine, Dr Olumu helped me and my Husband began to show me love and Great Respect, He was faithful to me and now we are happy together and he promised never to leave again. Dr Olumu is a Man full of Wonders, You can contact him through his Email: drolumusolutionhome@gmail.com OR drolumusolutionhome@hotmail.com
    You can also reach him on his personal website: drolumusolutionhome.webs.com

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  85. I am Kate Hawkins from United States of America, i want to quickly post a comment on a love spell caster that just brought my Husband back home to me and my kids, My Husband left me and my kids for another Woman and He filled for a Divorce paper, I was not comfortable with this because i love him so much, so i contacted a spell caster called Dr Olumu, He was directed to me by a friend of mine, Dr Olumu helped me and my Husband began to show me love and Great Respect, He was faithful to me and now we are happy together and he promised never to leave again. Dr Olumu is a Man full of Wonders, You can contact him through his Email: drolumusolutionhome@gmail.com OR drolumusolutionhome@hotmail.com
    You can also reach him on his personal website: drolumusolutionhome.webs.com/

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  86. What a wonderful and a straight forward spell caster that has brought back joy and happiness into my life!!! Am giving this testimony cos am so happy,I want to thank Dr. Trust for the great thing he has done in my life , he brought happiness to my life, I never believed in spell casters until my life fell apart when my husband of 5 years decided to call it quit. I was so devastated that i had an accident that left me bedridden. After 5 months of emotional pain and languish, a friend of mine introduced me to a spell caster on line called Dr Trust, this was after I have been scammed by various fake spell caster. I was introduced to Dr Trust a true Spell Caster. In less than 48 hours i saw wonders, my husband came back to me and my life got back just like a completed puzzle..Thank you Dr. Trust for helping me but most of all, Your Honesty and Fast Accurate Results. EMAIL HIM FOR HELP: Ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com or Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com website http://ultimatespellcast8.wix.com/ultimatespellcast or call +2348156885231

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  87. ATTN!!!
    I'm very happy to inform you all that all hope is not yet lost. I want to share my testimony with every BARREN WOMEN, IMPOTENT MEN who have lost the hope of having the fruit of the WOMB.
    I was married for 21 years and i was unable to have a child, on the first 5 years of my marriage with my husband i usually get pregnant but when the pregnancy gets to a month old i will get miscarriage, all this continued to the 6st year of my marriage when i couldn't get pregnant again. For all this past years i cried and longed to have a child because my husband threatened to get married to someone else. I shared my story with a friend in MIAMI and she told me about a great spell caster that helped her cast a pregnancy spell when she needed a male child. I contacted the spell caster and told him about my BARRENNESS.
    Just within 1week, he prepared a pregnancy spell and sent it to me which i applied and felt a big changes in my body. 2 months later, i was pregnant and i just gave birth a month ago. i wish to inform you all about him. if you need his help on pregnancy or any kind of cure and cleansing you can email him on greatlindaspell@gmail.com or drlindaspells@outlook.com or greatlindaspells@yahoo.com
    WARM REGARDS
    See more at: www.greatlindas.wix.com/herbalcuretemple

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  88. Dr. Abolo has made me to believe that one can still rise after fall. Dr. Abolo made it possible to bring back my ex lover after 6 months of separation and now me and my lost lover are now happily together all because of the powerful love spell Dr. Abolo cast for me. It has come to my notice that Dr. Abolo whose details are: {Abolospell@hotmal.com} and {+2347052534659} is very important in the society because he has the power to restore broken relationship and bring back ex lovers all within the space of 48hours. if you need his help you contact him via the details above.

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  89. After being in relationship with Harry for Five years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. but one day I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in love spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: druguelspellhome1@gmail.com you can email him or called him on +2347056683626 if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: druguelspellhome@yahoo.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS.

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  90. After being in relationship with Harry for Five years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. but one day I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in love spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: druguelspellhome1@gmail.com you can email him or called him on +2347056683626 if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: druguelspellhome@yahoo.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS.

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  91. i never believed that i could finally get back the happiness
    and the love that was gone after my husband left me totally.
    I couldn't just believe that spells and magic could turn my
    thoughts and my dreams into reality in getting back with my
    husband after he served me with divorce papers.. my ex
    husband after the divorce never showed up to me and the
    kids anymore, he finally made up his mind on me and said it
    was over. 2 years after our divorce, i was still out trying to
    get him back and i did all that i knew best could make him
    happy, and my mum and everybody around just advised i
    should forget about him and move on with my life, because
    they felt he was gone forever and was never gonna return.
    But i never gave up on trying to get him back, because i so
    much loved him beyond what anybody could ever imagine. I
    met a spell caster, and what drew my attention most was the
    fact that this spell caster was presently here in Florida when
    i contacted him. And that so much gave me the assurance
    because i have heard much more on how he has helped a
    lot of people... and with the help that this spell caster
    rendered to me, he saved my marriage and reunited me
    and my ex husband back together again with his powerful
    spells. Thank you so much Dr.ituafelice for your help in
    reuniting me and my husband again, if not for you, my life
    would have permanently turned out to be a mess. His Email;
    Dr.ituafelice@gmail.com or whatsapp +2349034078636

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  92. Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Mary Ken from the United States and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Dr Miracle who can really solve all your problems. Getting my lover back is what i can't imagine but when I was losing Mike, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly but my Cousin told me about this spell caster who also helped her on the internet. I thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone rang. Mike was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, This is truly miraculous and the spell caster opened him up to know how much I love and needs him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up his eyes to know how much love we have to share together. I recommend anyone who is in my old situation to try him because he will help you and make things be the way it ought to be. If you have such problem or similar to this, please contact him on his email: homeoflightandsolution@yahoo.com thank you Dr Miracle in fact you are miraculous and may your gods ever reward you for your good deeds..

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  93. Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Mary Ken from the United States and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Dr Miracle who can really solve all your problems. Getting my lover back is what i can't imagine but when I was losing Mike, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly but my Cousin told me about this spell caster who also helped her on the internet. I thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone rang. Mike was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, This is truly miraculous and the spell caster opened him up to know how much I love and needs him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up his eyes to know how much love we have to share together. I recommend anyone who is in my old situation to try him because he will help you and make things be the way it ought to be. If you have such problem or similar to this, please contact him on his email: homeoflightandsolution@yahoo.com thank you Dr Miracle in fact you are miraculous and may your gods ever reward you for your good deeds..

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  94. Grace is my name and I am one of the persons that have benefited from Dr. Uzoya Love Spell. Dr. UZOYA appeared in the middle of my life when all hope was lost. I gave up on life and thought the best way to cure my broken heart was to take my life after I tried several processes and traveled to India seeking for spell to reunite with my husband who dumped me after three years of our marriage for another lady but none of my effort worked. I made up my mind to continue with my suicide plan before a strange spirit came over me like a rain and ministered to me to search online after seeing so much talks about Dr. Uzoya Love Temple. I reluctantly searched and found amazing testimonies and recommendations about him which encouraged me to contact him via his email. He replied and asked me to wipe away my tears and quit any act to take my life; he said that my case is solvable after consulting his Oracle. Well, here I am today thanking Dr. Uzoya for saving my life and bringing back my Husband. We are so happy today and happier than we have ever been. I am so grateful for being among the people sharing this testimony and Dr. Uzoya telephone number is +2348151098492 OR email him on; driraborspellcaster@gmail.com

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  95. I am Starkes Junior from Manchester United Kingdom, I am using this means to reach out to every one out there that among all the Testimony on net most of them are bunch of lies and scams. I tried getting my Ex back Madison Lacy they from some kind of freaks out here they asked for Items fee I paid and continue to pay but nothing happen, one Saturday morning i was less busy form work and i went on line till i got to read about a Testimony on net like we all do here and saw The great Dr. Ogudugu how he has helped so many people and I also read his website and saw he qualities and also more Testimonies about him, Today Dr. Ogudugu has helped me gotten back my Ex Madison Lacy and also cure me from a lungs cancer and also he can do so many things like Cure of Hepatitis A,B,C, HIV/AIDS Spell, Getting your Ex back Spell, Money Spell,Lottery Spell,Good luck Spell I can never stop Testifying of this great man Dr. Ogudugu his email is: GREATOGUDUGU@GMAIL.COM. I never trusted any one on net but with him there's an end to all my problems now I am living Happily with my Ex who just gave me a male Child Kelvin" Dr. Ogudugu you are the Best among the rest, viewers out there contact Dr. Ogudugu today and that will be the end of your problems. If possible i would have bring him down to United Kingdom...all thanks to you Papa.

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  96. HELLO:
    my name is joel sandra from Canada, i want to testify to the general public on how my relationship was restored back by the great power’s of Dr,UZOY After three months of loneliness, my ex-lover called me after my contact with Dr,UZOYA that he want us to come back and start a good home, now we are happily married with a kid. All thanks to Dr,UZOYA for his spiritual help. You can contact him on his email if you have similar problem, or any solution you may need, job, divorce, promotion in you place of work, healing,money spell, etc.you can Contact him via email:driraborspellcaster@gmail.com OR you can also reach him directly on his cell phone number +2348151098492

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  97. There is a saying that when a woman love she loves for real, This is was how real the love that i had for my lover was. But he was not faithful to me due to the fact that he was having some secret affairs with some other woman whom i don't know and which never mad me comfortable because i was losing my lover slowly. After series of search on the internet i found these details +2348182620374 and zabaza.logan@yahoo.com belonging to Dr.Zabaza whom i contacted and he was able to stop my lover from cheating and now we are planning to get married

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  98. My name is Jessica Ruiz from Florida I have to give this miraculous testimony, which is so unbelievable until now. I had a problem with my Ex husband 2years ago, which lead to our break up. when he broke up with me, I was not my self again, i felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worst, until a close friend of mine Lucy told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Dr SJUDE at liberationlovespell@gmail.com . I email Dr JUDE the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before i knew what was happening my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me in just 2days and was so happy to have him back to me. We have two kids together and we are happy with ourselves. Thanks to Dr JUDE liberationlovespell@gmail.com.com for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address is liberationlovespell@gmail.com you are the best among all the spell caster online I hope you see my testimonies and also pray for my family too

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  99. My name is Camille bruno Valdez my partner and I have been trying for a baby for over 9 years now, We were going to a fertility clinic for about 5 months before somebody told us to contact this spell caster who is so powerful, We contacted him at this email; dr.hazzanherbalcentre@gmail.com , for him to help us, then we told him our problem, he told us that we will either conceive in February 2014 or March 2014,but after 9 years of trying we were at a point where we were willing to try anything. And I'm glad we came to Dr Dahiru, Because his pregnancy spell cast put us at ease, and I honestly believe him, and his gods really helped us as well, I am thankful for all he has done. contact him via email: dr.hazzanherbalcentre@gmail.com or call him on +2348169340571 if you are trying to get a baby or want your lover back. he has powers to do it, he has done mine.

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  100. My name is Camille bruno Valdez my partner and I have been trying for a baby for over 9 years now, We were going to a fertility clinic for about 5 months before somebody told us to contact this spell caster who is so powerful, We contacted him at this email; dr.hazzanherbalcentre@gmail.com , for him to help us, then we told him our problem, he told us that we will either conceive in February 2014 or March 2014,but after 9 years of trying we were at a point where we were willing to try anything. And I'm glad we came to Dr Dahiru, Because his pregnancy spell cast put us at ease, and I honestly believe him, and his gods really helped us as well, I am thankful for all he has done. contact him via email: dr.hazzanherbalcentre@gmail.com or call him on +2348169340571 if you are trying to get a baby or want your lover back. he has powers to do it, he has done mine.

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  101. my name is carol and I live in USA, My life is back again... After 5years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with kids .I felt like my life was about to end and I almost committed suicide, I was emotionally down for a very long time.Thanks to a spell caster called dr. ovia, which I meet online, On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet and I came across a lot of testimonies about this particular spell caster.Some people testified that he brought their Ex boyfriend back, some testified that he restores Womb,Cure Cancer and Herpes Virus and HIV Cure,diabitis hepatitis b, and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. I also come across one particular testimony and it was about a woman called jinni, she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr. ovia email address which is, droviaspiritualtemple@gmail.com After reading all these,I decided to give it a try and I contacted him through his via email and explained my problem to him. In just 48 hours, my husband came back to me, and we solved our issues, we are even happier than before Dr. ovia is really a gifted man and I will not stop testifying him because he is a wonderful man and so powerful, If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems. contact him on this email:droviaspiritualtemple@gmail.com or call him on whats-app +2348135858735
    GOODLUCK......

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  102. I wake up everyday with a smile on my face and singing praises to this powerful spell caster called Dr,UZOYA who has done me a great favor by rescuing my relationship from break up. I used to think that i have a perfect relationship till when my lover started coming home late and everyday he gives me different excuses then i decided to keep a close eye on him then i discovers that he was having an affair with another girl. I was heart broken because i trusted him so much and knowing that he has a secret relationship, hurts me a lot.. But i thank all those who placed the contact information of Dr,UZOYA on the internet because through that i have been able to contact Dr,UZOYA and today my relationship has been restored with love and more romance than ever before. If you are in any kind of relationship or marriage stress i will do you a favor by dropping the contact information's of Dr,UZOYA which are via email: driraborspellcaster@gmail.com Or Call +2348151098492.

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  103. Hello friends..i never believe and tough that me and my ex husband could ever come back and live life happily again after been divorce for years..I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster when, i contacted this man called .Dr Okeyto. me and my husband was going on a divorce..i thought it was a joke and when my husband came back from work he tender to me a divorce letter and he packed all my properties away from is house..i ran mad and i tried all i could to have him back because i love him and i really want him back but all did not work out..i was lonely for almost 5years.So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for his full name and his picture..i gave him that..At first i was skeptical but i have to gave him a try cos i have tried so many spell casters and there was no solution.so when he finished with the readings,he got back to me that him is with a woman and that woman is the reason why he left me.The spell caster said he will help me with a power spell that will surely bring him back.but i never believe all this.he told me i will see a positive result within 24 hour..24 hour later after the spell
    has been cast,him called me himself and came to me apologizing and him told
    me he will come back to me..I cant believe this,it was like a dream cos i
    never believe this will work out after trying so many spell casters and there
    was no solution..The spell caster is so powerful and after that he helped me
    with a pregnancy spell and i got pregnant again ..we are now happy been
    together again and with lovely kids..This spell caster has really changed
    my life and i will forever be thankful to him..he has helped many friends
    too with similar problem and they are happy and thankful to him..This Dr
    Okeyto is indeed the most powerful spell caster that i have ever experienced in
    life..Am Posting this to the Forum in case there is anyone who has similar
    problem and still looking for a way out.
    1. Get your scam money back
    2. Bring back lost lover, even if lost for a long time
    3. Remove bad spells from homes, business & customer attraction etc.
    4. Get promotion you have desired for a long time at work or in your career.
    5. Read all your problems before you even mention them to him
    6. Remove the black spot that keeps on taking your money away
    7. Find out why you are not progressing in life and the solution
    8. Eliminate in family fights
    9. Ensure excellent school grades even for children with mental disabilities
    10.Stop your marriage or relationship from breaking apart
    11. heal barrenness in women and disturbing menstruation
    12. Get you marriage to the lover of your choice
    13. Guarantee you win the troubling court cases & divorce no matter how what stage
    14. Ensure success in work and business
    15. Mental illness & bewitched
    16. Can?t sleep at night or walking at night
    17. Recover stolen property and whereabouts of people that hurt you.
    18. Bring supernatural luck into your life
    19. Do you need help to win a lottery
    20. Pregnancy spell to conceive baby
    21.You want women/men to run after you
    22.You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever
    23. If you can't be able to satisfy your wife sex desire due or low err action.
    24.Let people obey my words and do my wish
    25.if you HAVE HIV AIDS, /CANCER CORONARY ARTERY HERPES RARE DISEASE DIABETES MIGRAINES or any kind of disease Dr.Okeyto CAN HELP YOU CURE IT OKAY.
    you can reach him here.dr.okeytospelltemple@gmail.com or contact him on his number +2349050141440/whats-app..he is willing n ever ready to help.okay. This is what i want to tell you all out there,That is thinking that all hope is lost
    ..Thanks to you all

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  104. My name is Ruth Moore from uk. I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in February this year on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is DR.OYINBO he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is prophetoyinbojesus@yahoo.com

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  105. Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Mary Ken from the United States and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Dr Miracle who can really solve all your problems. Getting my lover back is what i can't imagine but when I was losing Mike, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly but my Cousin told me about this spell caster who also helped her on the internet. I thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone rang. Mike was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, This is truly miraculous and the spell caster opened him up to know how much I love and needs him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up his eyes to know how much love we have to share together. I recommend anyone who is in my old situation to try him because he will help you and make things be the way it ought to be. If you have such problem or similar to this, please contact him on his email: homeoflightandsolution@yahoo.com thank you Dr Miracle in fact you are miraculous and may your gods ever reward you for your good deeds..

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  106. Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Mary Ken from the United States and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Dr Miracle who can really solve all your problems. Getting my lover back is what i can't imagine but when I was losing Mike, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly but my Cousin told me about this spell caster who also helped her on the internet. I thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone rang. Mike was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, This is truly miraculous and the spell caster opened him up to know how much I love and needs him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up his eyes to know how much love we have to share together. I recommend anyone who is in my old situation to try him because he will help you and make things be the way it ought to be. If you have such problem or similar to this, please contact him on his email: homeoflightandsolution@yahoo.com thank you Dr Miracle in fact you are miraculous and may your gods ever reward you for your good deeds..

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  107. I was diagnosed with poor ovarian reserve and very bad prognosis of having a baby with my own eggs. I was even given the option to consider donor eggs. That was around july 2014. I was absolutely devastated with the news and I arranged an IVF for November 2014 and it failed also, given that I had nothing to lose, I contacted Dr.Agbazara i meet online and he send me his herbal product,. Believe it or not... I am already pregnant within few after his help. contact him today with any kind of problem and be happy like me on ( agbazara@gmail.com )

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  108. Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Mary Ken from the United States and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Dr Miracle who can really solve all your problems. Getting my lover back is what i can't imagine but when I was losing Mike, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly but my Cousin told me about this spell caster who also helped her on the internet. I thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone rang. Mike was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, This is truly miraculous and the spell caster opened him up to know how much I love and needs him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up his eyes to know how much love we have to share together. I recommend anyone who is in my old situation to try him because he will help you and make things be the way it ought to be. If you have such problem or similar to this, please contact him on his email: homeoflightandsolution@yahoo.com thank you Dr Miracle in fact you are miraculous and may your gods ever reward you for your good deeds..

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    1. AnonymousMay 12, 2016

      Hi everyone! Life without my boyfriend was a real mess for me,What on Earth will i do to thank Dr.Unity for his help? he is wonderful and has a good heart. He is like a God on Earth and i really do not know what to do to thank him for helping me regain my boyfriend love back with his spell. After being in relationship with my boyfriend (Andrew) for 3 years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before two days, that my ex will return to me before two days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the other ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, like of issue of not being able to get pregnant for many years, lotto, his email is: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com or call him on +2348072370762 you can email him if you need his help in your relationship or any other problem like wining lottery your problem can never remain the same again, it will turn a thing of the past in your life..I am Katy Brown by name i live here in Los Angeles, California United States.

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  109. Do you feel rejected by your Ex here is your solution..

    This is a genuine Testimony..I visited a forum here on the internet on the 20TH OF JUNE 2015, And i saw a marvelous testimony of this powerful and great spell caster called Dr Save on the forum..I never believed it, because i never heard nor learnt anything about spells before.. Not a soul would have been able to influence me about magical spells, not until Dr Save did it for me and restored my marriage of 8 years back to me and brought my wife back to me in just 17hours just as i read on the internet..i was truly astonished and shocked when my wife knelt down begging for forgiveness and for me to accept her back.. I am really short of expressions, and i don't know how much to convey my appreciation to you Dr Save you are a God sent to me and my entire family.. And now i am a joyful man once again.. here is his Email: adesolutiontemple@gmail.com you can also OR CALL +2347064348663....Tom Bush from (UK)....

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  110. This is a testimony that I will tell to every one to hear. I have been married four 4years and on the fifth year of my marriage, another woman had a spell to take my lover away from me and my husband left me and the kids and we have suffered for 2years until I met a post where this man DR voodoo have helped someone and I decided to give him a try to help me bring my lover back home and believe me I just send my picture to him and that of my husband and after 48hours as he have told me, I saw a car drove into the house and behold it was my husband and he have come to me and the kids and that is why I am happy to make every one of you in similar to met with this man and have your lover back to your self. His email:voodoospelltemple66@gmail.com or you can also add him on whatsApp +2348067101348

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  111. Is my gratitude and honor to say a big thanks to a man with truth and do as he promise please every one on this site should join me and thank Dr.voodoo for the glory and happiness he gave to me i break up with my husband 2 weeks back and I was down and do not know what to do until i saw a post about this spell caster Dr.voodoo who i explain my situation to,and them he said to me cry not my daughter for what you seek for is right here in my temple he gave me hope when i have no hope to my greatest notice,he did the spell for me and my husband was back 3 days after the spell please if you need any help my advise is for you all go to Dr.voodoo because he is the best of all contact him via; voodoospelltemple66@gmail.com or you can also add him on whatsApp +2348067101348

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  112. (How i got my husband back)

    My husband and i have live together for 15yrs and married for 11yrs and he divorce me 3months ago. I was worried and so confuse because i love him so much and i need him back home, i was really going too depressed and it has affect me so much that i feel my life have come to an end. One day a friend of mine told me about this spell caster called Dr Kala who can help me get my husband back and she told me many people are talking about him all over the internet and she gave me his email (kalalovespell@gmail.com) i contact him and i made all my problems known to him and he told me not to worry that he was going to make my husband to come back to me and in just 48hours i receive a call from my husband and he was appealing that i should come back to the house. I have never in my life believe in spell but now he has just helped me out to be a fulfill woman and i am now so happy. All Thanks to DR KALA and if you also want to have your Husband back to yourself here !! his email again is KALALOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM or you whatsapp him on +2347051705853 i am so happy to testify of your work and kindness.

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  113. Midred Jackson Says

    Am giving this testimony because am happy and only GOD in heaven will help me to bless and protect this great spell caster called Dr Otis Darko as he is a GODSENT into my life to change the situation of my life and restore JOY, HAPPINESS AND LAUGHTER into my life again as he alone is who I can say contact because he was the only one that could help me get my ex back to me and made him love and cherish me like never before....

    My name is Midred Jackson from Michigan I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster once. when I went to Africa in November 28th 2015 last year on a business summit. I ment a man called DR OTIS DARKO. He is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back your love’s gone, misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now happy & a living testimony because the man I had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down because our relationship has been on for 2 years… I really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job. so when I met this spell caster, I told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him and at first I was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but I just gave it a try and in less than 2 days when I returned to MICHIGAN, my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologize for everything and we had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married..I didn’t believe it because the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all I wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid,and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better. in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email address: otisdarko60@yahoo.com and he will help out...

    GREAT OTIS DARKO I thank you very much thank you in 1000000 times.. if not you I would have been losted and wasted thank you. Email Him Through his email address... otisdarko60@yahoo.com

    Please make sure you contact him for any financial difficulties okay or any kind of problem you are facing in life as this man is GODSENT into this world to help everyone solve their problems today in life..

    What a powerful man such as DR OTIS DARKO.. he is so much powerful..\\ email him for any difficulties.. otisdarko60@yahoo.com................... YOU CAN ALSO ADD HIM UP ON WHATSAPP USING THIS MOBILE NUMBER:+2348077526136

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  114. My ex-husband and I had always managed to stay friendly after our divorce in FEBRUARY THIS YEAR., but I always wanted to get back together with him, and he was never sure, because the Love was not there anymore. So I thought it was about time I MAKE him sure! All it took was a visit to this spell casters website this month DECEMBER, because my dream was to start a new year with my husband, and live happily with him.. This spell caster requested for a specific love spell for me and my husband, and i accepted it. And this powerful spell caster began to work his magic. And 24 hours after this spell caster worked for me, on the 5TH OF MAY 2016, my husband called me back for us to be together again, and he was remorseful for all his wrong deeds.My spell is working because guess what: My “husband” is back and we are making preparations on how to go to court and withdraw our divorce papers ASAP. This is nothing short of a miracle. Thank you Dr Osauyi for your powerful spells. Words are not enough. here is his Website: Osauyilovespell@yahoo.com OR call him on +2347064294395

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  115. After being in relationship with him for 3 years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the other ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, like of issue of not be able to get pregnant for many years, lotto, his email is DRAISEDIONSPELLCASTER@OUTLOOK.COM you can email him if you need his help in your relationship or any other problem like wining lottery your problem can never remain the same again, it will turn a thing of the past in your life.

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  116. After being in relationship with him for 3 years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the other ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, like of issue of not be able to get pregnant for many years, lotto, his email is DRAISEDIONSPELLCASTER@OUTLOOK.COM you can email him if you need his help in your relationship or any other problem like wining lottery your problem can never remain the same again, it will turn a thing of the past in your life.

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  117. A POWERFUL SPELL
    CASTER WHO WIPE A WAY MY SORROW
    Amazing?? i do not know how to thanks Dr MRS FAITH who did a spell that
    make my wife to come back to me.he left me for the past five years,and
    for the past five years i have been in pains,sorrow,bitterness and
    wiping.until i read a magazine about this man called Dr MRS FAITH,who
    help people to unite their relationship within two days.i never believe in
    spell or magic,so i decided to give him a try.i contacted him.he told me
    that he shall come back to me according to my believe.he also promise me
    that he shall return to me within two days,i was still doubting,if she can
    really do according to what she says,unfortunately on the third day she call
    me on phone saying that i should forget and forgive him.that she is now
    ready to love and cherish me,on the forth day he but a car for me to say he
    is very,very ,very,sorry,big thanks to Dr faith you help me to bring
    back my lovely wife,any body act their,having similar problem like
    this,thinking on what to do,Email him at faithspellcaster@gmail.com)he will
    surely but a smile on your face.not only that he can help you email him now
    at ( faithspellcaster@gmail.com ) and you can also add har on whatsapp with this number +2348104857337 or call har

    1) Have promotion in anything you do
    2 )Earn a good money
    3)Success in business
    4)spiritual problems
    5) win court case
    6)You want to be promoted in your office.
    (7) You want women/men to run after you.
    (8) If you want a child.
    (9) You want to be rich.
    (10) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (11) If you need financial assistance.
    (12) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (13)if you want to stop your divorce.
    (14)if you want to divorce your husband.
    (15)if you want your wishes to be granted.
    MR mark ken
    Regards

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  118. Am thompson castel from USA... this is unbelievable i have be suffering for {Genital Herpes virus} how i get cure from my herpes virus with the help of Dr Ruth is a great herbalist man from Africa in Nigeria,people do say Nigeria are all scam i believe and just give a try to him after i have been scam by 4 different people in that country,i meet Dr Ruth email on website,though I went through different website I saw different testimonies about different spell casters and herbalist, I was like: 'Many people have the herpes simplex virus cure why are people still suffering from it?' I though of it, then I contact Dr Ruth via email, I didn't believe him that much,I just wanted to give him a try,he told me that he will prepare herbal cure that i will take in 2 week,so he can prepare a herbal cure on me from his temple.. after three days I started getting more stronger my blood started flowing normally i started experiencing changes all over me as the great Dr Ruth assured me that i have been cured,after some time i went to the doctor to confirmed if i have be finally healed behold it was TRUE,and kind of spell you can think of or any illness i advice you all to contact him:Drruthsolutiontemple777@gmail.com if you have hepatitis B herpes cancer HIV/AIDS any kind of and he also do love spell,urgent cure to your disease and have a good health as he always want to be.his private email:Drruthsolutiontemple777@gmail.com

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  119. How I Got My Ex Husband Back........... I am elizabeth by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my husband after three(3) years of marriage just because another woman had a spell on him and he left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address salvationlovespell@gmail.com , have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a woman had a spell on my husband and he told me that he will help me and after 2 days that i will have my husband back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband. Thanks for Dr. Paul . His email: salvationlovespell@gmail.com or whasapp me on +2349051441669

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  120. i dont have much to say cause of the line of work i have ok but first my name is becky smith from usa,i am a
    loving mother of two,i want to thank the man i am still with my husband i
    am saying thank you sir,for what you done in my life for bring back my
    husband to me thank you,if you have any problem at all you can report it to
    him reach him on this email...drbramajarrosejujuspell@gmail.com

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  121. My name is myers from USA. I am here to give testimony on how I got my husband back, my husband left me for no reason months ago. He moved in with another woman, I felt like killing myself, my life became very bitter and sorrowful. Then one day a friend of mine told me about a great spell caster that is very good and she said that he told her all about her life history and the problem she is facing, i didn't believe it because I've worked with so many of them and it didn't work. She begged me further so I decided to try this great spell caster called Great Dr Paul. I still didn't believe but inside me i wanted to give a try and as God will have it i used the spell solution he gave me and the next day and I really received a call from my darling husband, He apologized and came back to me. I'm very happy now with my family it worked for me and i believe it will work for you, give him a try and follow up, this is a clear truth from a testifier. Thank you Dr Paul once again, if you want to reach him via email: salvationlovespell@gmail.com

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  122. What a big surprise my lover is back just within 48 hours with the help of Dr.Yamaza how cast a spell on him that made my lover to come back to me, whom i taught would never come back because he left me when another woman cast a spell on him that made him not to think about me. But when i was reading testimony about Dr.Yamaza on how he have been helping people to bring back there lover so i also contact him. After i contact him my lover come back i am so happy for the good work he did for me you can also contact him today at yamazatemple@yahoo.com or +2349057260852

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  123. NEED REAL ONLINE SPELL CASTER HELP URGENTLY TO BRING BACK EX LOVER: HUSBAND, WIFE, GIRLFRIEND OR BOYFRIEND. WANT SPELLCASTER DESPERATELY TO GET BACK EX LOVER, TO STOP YOUR LOVER CHEATING ON YOU, SPELL CASTER FOR MONEY SPELL, FOR DEATH SPELLCATER, SUCCESS SPELLCASTER, BEAUTY SPELLCASTER, SPELLCASTER TO STOP/FILE DIVORCE, CONTACT THE GREAT, REAL AND HONEST SPELL CASTER TODAY ON:
    Mobile: +2348059092407
    Email: oruentempleofpowers@gmail.com
    Email: oruentempleofpowers@gmail.com

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  124. I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
    or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com or view through his website and Contact him there: supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380


    I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
    or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com or view through his website and Contact him there: supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380

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  125. I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
    or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com or view through his website and Contact him there: supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380

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  126. You don't need somebody to tell you that this great man is a real online spell caster know as Dr.Yamaza whose contact details are: yamazatemple@yahoo.com Or +2349057260852 he have made me to know that spell work, Dr.Yamaza cast a love spell on my lover that made him come back to me i am so happy for the good work that Dr.Yamaza did for me he can also make your lover who left you for no reason to come back to you i will always give thanks to you Dr.Yamaza

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  127. Hello, I'm leaving this message to all those out there TTC, and that last week, the day came that I never thought would happen.  I became a mother !!!We had been trying since we got married in 2009.  My husband had poor morphology and poor motility and a very low sperm count.  To add to this, I have PCOS, so our chances of conceiving naturally was very small. A friend of mine read about Dr.Oloye spells for fertility on internet. After discussions with Dr.Oloye, he helped me choose a spell which would be best for our situation.  Within a month I was pregnant and our perfect daughter was born. I will keep the pretty gemstone to give to my daughter when she is older. My advice to anyone reading this, is to give it a go on: fertilitysolutiontemple@live.com  

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  128. Am writing this article to appreciate the good work of DR UDAZE that helped me recently to bring back my Husband that left me for another woman for no reason for the past 3 years. After seeing a post of a woman on the internet testifying of how she was helped by DR UDAZE. I also decided to contact him for help because all i wanted was for me to get my husband, happiness and to make sure that my child grows up with his Dad. Am happy today that he helped me and i can proudly say that my husband is now with me again and she is now in love with me like never before. Are you in need of any help in your relationship like getting back your man, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, winning of lotteries, herbal cure for sickness or job promotion E.T.C. Viewers reading my post that needs the help of DR UDAZE should contact him now on his E-mail: dr.udazelovespelltemple@yahoo.com..

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  129. I am here to spread this good news to the entire world on how Dr. Ken of supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com helped me solve my infertility problem and i am so happy now that i am now a mother because for over 4 years i have been trying to get pregnant and needed help, i and my husband always go for medical check up and the doctor always say that the both of us are fine and i have no where else to get help from and all hope was almost lost until one day i visited a friend of mine and i told her what i was passing through and she introduce me to this great spell caster called Dr. Ken who helped her when she was in need of help, so i took a try to contact Dr. Ken through his email and i explain all my problem to him and after we have talked he perform an infertility spell for me and after that he told me what i should do, and i followed the instruction he gave and after that he instructed to sleep with my husband and also i followed the instruction and he said that the next week i should go for medical check up and the doctor confirmed that i was 4 months pregnant and i was so happy that all my sorrows were gone for ever, i am so very happy now and also you need any kind of help or the same line with mine, contact Dr. Ken on his email: supersolutionhome1@gmail.com or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com
    or supersolutionhom@yahoo.com or view through his website and Contact him there: supersolutionhome.webs.com Call his phone number +2348074433380

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